I've been very open with my girlfriend about my relationship OCD, because she can always tell when something is wrong with me and had been asking if I was still in love with her when I recently started to slip into a depression (that's actually what caused my "what if I'm not in love with her any more?!" obsession to start). Basically she will assume the worst and she also has OCD so I had hoped that even though it would upset her she would be understanding.
And don't get me wrong, she's trying really hard. But she can't seem to accept that my obsessive thoughts aren't real. She keeps asking "do you not love me because of this?" or saying she's afraid I'm going to break up with her so she wants to be ready. And I understand that. I would worry about the same things in her situation.
The problem is, it's making my anxiety about the situation worse. It makes me think "wait, what if it's not just OCD, what if she's right?"
We've agreed now that when she asks how I'm doing I'm just going to answer vaguely, like "I had a good morning, but right now I feel anxious and depressed."
Another problem is that this anxiety and obsession triggered a really deep depression where I can't enjoy anything or feel things like love, which makes me obsess MORE.
I'm sorry to post so much I just feel like I'm losing my grip.