Re: panic about son being depressed ...
My son (also adult age) went through a very similar experience and it worried me sick. He eventually 'broke down' one night after a few drinks and my partner took him to A&E. He was advised to see the GP and given some helpline numbers, which of course he didn't call.
As it was causing me so much distress, I eventually sat him down, explained how worried I was and what I was going through and talked him round. I booked him a doctors appointment, he was put on citalopram and within days was a changed person. He was on it for around 6 months and I'm happy to say he has almost completley turned himself around.
It's not an easy issue for you to deal with and I'm not sure what the best way forward is for you. Only you know your son and the impact this is having on both of you. As long as he knows you are there for him, he may eventually relent. I wish you luck and hope you can reach a happy medium between you.
Kitti
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