Anxiety 6/10 (how bad I feel out of 10)
Depression 6/10
Confidence 5/10
Relaxation 4/10
Stress 6/10
I really do feel like I'm starting to get my life back. I'm feeling stronger, more real, more accepting of the world, more like doing things.
Ok, I still don't feel brilliant, I'm still pretty tense and my body aches, I still feel quite anxious, but I feel more inclined to want to push through fear. I'm starting to see my drive to work as going down the road rather than on a globe and travelling down the planet!
Depression/Anxiety is very much a physical illness. You have high levels of adrenaline, cortisol and noradrenaline in your system, your seratonin and endorphins are low. When I've felt really unreal I remember saying to someone that I felt like I was on drugs- and we are. I can't remember exactly which chemical it is, but I know that one of the drugs associated with anxiety/ depression is loads more powerful than morphine!!!
For most of the time that I've been ill I've thought that if I felt physically well that I would be much better. It's taken me this long to realise that I need to proactively relax to soothe those aching muscles.
It's bad that you feel not so hot mentally and your body really compounds the problems. I've been feeling really stuck in this small town, but whenever I think of trying to get out my body gets really anxious and tense.
One things that really annoys me is when I see something and my stomach turns a little and I think 'no, I don't like that'. On the tv this morning there was a shot of a corridor in an american high school and that's what caused it. I guess that it's an anchor/ shortcut for me to have an automatic anxious-depressive sensation, but why? Is it because America is the most challenging place in the world for me to go to because I'd have to cross the atlantic? Is it because of Columbine? Is it because america can be quite trashy and I'm a bit of a culture snob?
I don't know what it is, but I get that sensation a lot oand it's really uncomfortable.
I know that to get better I have to change my attitude to challenges. I need to welcome them rather than dreading them. There were kids diving into the pool this morning and I thought 'I'd never do that at their age' because I was too concerned with trying to look cool (because I was such a geek), which also acted as a convenient excuse for not having to face my fears. Whereas the actual impression that I gave out wasn't of somebody who is cool, but of somebody who is miserable and no fun.
The way to be happy is to want to go out there and so stuff. Life is like a supermarket sweep, you only have a limited time and you have to go around and fill your trolley with as many experiences as you can! I've been all too guilty in the past of putting things off until later life when I feel more confident. I know now that confidence comes first and that the more you do today the more it gives you opportunity to do tomorrow.
It's great that, through my volunteering, I have come into contact with really energised, positive and inspirational people who want to challenge themselves and get involved with things, because up until then the people I had been surrounded by are people who are miserable at work or people in the local pub.
One thing that does concern me is that I have a tendency to go in cycles. I'll be really enthusiatic and get loads done and then I'll fade away and become lazy. I'm just trying to keep it consistent.
If I could imagine my ideal life at the moment the first thing that I would like is to have a closer circle of friends. I'm getting there with my sports teams, but it would be great to have a 'gang' and to meet them in the pub or to go out to restaurants together. I suppose I am being a bit negative about this because I have been out for drinks with my girls football team and one of the lads from the football team and I need to not overlook that, not to take them for granted.
The second thing that i would wish for is a different lifestyle with regards to work. It would be great to