first time i have posted,but need a bit of support and advice,I was a full time carer to my Mum who had dementia looked after her for 12 years 24/7 she passed away in june this year I went straight into caring my mum in law who was in the last stages of dementia she passed away in September so lost them both in 9 weeks and with that I have lost my job as a full time carer to them both, My GP had a lot of respect for me and admired me for dealing with it, But I am now so anxious ,from morning to night and can,t remember when I felt relaxed, knotted tummy, low self esteem, fearful ,I take diazapam 4 mg at night it takes the edge of things,i was offered cetalopam but to be fair it made me feel rubbish so stopped taking them, i was wondering if I could take quiet life tablets with my meds? I looked at taking valarian but looks like you can,t take them with my meds does any one have any advice on this please or a good relaxation cd as I have a book but feel to agitated to sit and read it