Re: Pregnancy and ectopic fear
Hey, this is something I can sort of relate to. I had a miscarriage in 2010, and it took me weeks to get over the physical pain and about a year to deal with the emotional pain.
I fell pregnant again in June this year and was petrified from the moment I first began to suspect I was pregnant (I had a 'feeling' I was pregnant, so did a test to prove to myself that I wasn't as I was on the pill, sure enough I was) although we were both delighted and excited, the timing wasn't great as I am in my final few weeks of teacher training, we do not live together yet, and basically it just was a big shock!
Once the initial shock wore off I was petrified, every twinge and ache I had, I was sent into fits of panic.
I went to A&E on one occasion when I was about 5 weeks and they were worse than useless, they confirmed that I was pregnant (like the 8 tests I had done were all wrong, lol) and asked me to call my local early pregnancy unit the next day.
I was then scanned every 7 days, healthy heartbeat detected on the second scan when I was just over 6 weeks, so we began to relax and I actually began to enjoy all the aches and pains - they were signs that my baby was taking all it needed from me!
Sadly I ended up miscarrying again in August, however I have been assured that there is every chance I will go on to have a healthy baby.
I have been offered testing as it is very unusual to have multiple miscarriages with the same partner at my age (I'm only 23) but I am too scared to get anything done about it!
I know this is a long and rambling post but I just wanted to say big hugs - I know how hard it is to lose a baby and to not be able to enjoy a pregnancy for the fear that something will go wrong. I have not had to go through the pain of IVF but I have a feeling that I will need to go down that route in the future. I can't imagine how difficult that must have been for you.
Ectopic pregnancies are rare, and it is rare for them to cause any issues until after the 6 week mark. Have you contacted your local early pregnancy unit? I know it is dishonest but a heartbeat can sometimes be detected before the 6 week mark - I had fluttering at 5.5! It might be worth making your dates slightly different and asking for a scan. If you say that you have had pain they should scan you, especially given your history.
Congratulations by the way! I'm sure in 8 months you will be posting on here telling us that you have a beautiful healthy baby
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