On top of fear of balconies in case I jump, and throwing hot coffee on people, and obsessing about body image, I have the intrusive thought of blurting out something offensive that I don't mean to loved ones. This thought doesn't come up in my head if I'm around people who don't mean anything to me. But whenever I'm around people I'm most afraid of offending, the thought is there, making it very distressing.
My initial worry was I have tourettes but I've had this intrusive thought for 5 months now and never acted on it. I figured if it was tourettes, I wouldn't have been able to control it for this long. And it's not like once I leave the room, I have to say it. The urge is only there when the person is, and it makes me feel ill. The other night I was having dinner with my boyfriends family and the fact his parents like and approve of me is too good to be true. I keep having the distressing thought of insulting them to their face and their reaction is my worst fear. And there's a physical response to that thought. I start feeling really anxious and I couldn't even eat... you'd think if there was food in my mouth I'd be confident I wouldn't blurt anything out, but I convinced myself that I would spit out the food AND insult them at the same time. The image of that in my head made me want to vomit on the spot. Other behaviors are biting my knuckle. Sometimes the fight or flight response is triggered by these thoughts.
In my rational mind I don't want to say anything. I don't want to ruin this GOOD thing. But the OCD tells me I have no self control and I WILL make these people hate me. I'm scared now that my behaviors - like not eating and feeling like I wanted to vomit, and biting my knuckle, just reinforced my fear that I'll say something. And the strange thing was it was strongest when we were all sitting at the table. Once people finished their meal and started moving around, I was less anxious and the thought went completely away.
It's completely against my nature to say anything... I guess thats why this is so upsetting. Has anyone experienced this and what worked to fight it? I'm desperate and exhausted. I'd greatly appreciate any insight.