There has been so many things going on in my life recently that I find it so hard to deal with everything. Okay here it goes...
My mum and dad never had a happy marriage, my dad is opressive, self-righteous and impossible! he made our lives hell and I have only him to blame for all my problems for everything he put us through... well i could write about my past for ever, but the current problem is this.
My mum wants to leave him and have left him before for 3 months, but he emotionally blackmailed us for every single day of those 3 months that he was going to kill himself. he is in poor health at the moment but still my mother has worked out a plan to leave him, but now is full of guilt and asks me for advice because she is scared that if she does leave again he will do what he says... my advice was to her that he needs to take responsibility for his own actions and she cannot always give in, but now I am utterly scared that what if she does leave and he will kill himself then it will be on my conscious... i have such a huge heart the only problem is, that he has none!!!! I have tried about a zillion times talking some sense into him but he just goes on and on and on and just DOES NOT LISTEN!!!!! He has ruined our lives by always manipulating us to believe everything he says and now he wants us to feel compassion for him and love him and all the rest.. I am so sick of this situation I am really not coping well....his continuous abuse is why I have anxiety on the first place because we never could have any peace... I blame him for my brother's suicide coz he was always so hard on him and thats probably why he developed schizophrenia....and now I am scared for my own health...i am so worried out of my mind that I am slowly approaching insanity too...and I still dont know where to turn for help....I so want to help my mum, because she has been the strongest out of all of us and she so deserves to be free of this evil man, but how could we ever live with the consequences of him killing himself....i just feel its like catch-22....any thought on this?
" The solution to a problem is right through it..."