...this is something I feel that I have to ask and talk about but it's quite personal!!
For the last few months...well, I say few, I mean roughly 5 months or so, my sex drive has been ....extremely low! Like, I have zero drive. I am with my boyfriend of 7 and a half years and I still love him, am still attracted to him..but I am just not interested in sex at the moment.
I am 26 years old, so still young and I WANT to be interested in it again! This has never happened to me before, I have always had a healthy libido and my friends have joked that me and my bf are still at it like we're still teenagers in love. But now it's just stopped!!
When I had my first serious phase of anxiety this didn't happen, so this time around I wasn't sure it was anxiety. I am travelling and working around Australia at the moment, so I was coming up with excuses like, it's too hot..and I'm too tired after work, etc. But that wasn't really the reason. I couldn't actually come up with a reason! Then my boyfriend (understandably) got upset and thought it was because I didn't fancy him anymore and I had to convince him that wasn't the reason, I felt so bad.
Now I'm not saying I've gone without it for 5 months. It's just that it takes me a long time to get in the mood and most of the time I just can't get excited by it. And then there are some occasions when I DO enjoy it and it's like normal.
All I am really trying to ask is, is there anyone else out there that this happens to because of their anxiety...(because I definitely think that is the reason for this) and how do you cope with it if you're in a long term r/ship? Is there a way to get back in the mood? I just hate that stress and worrying is affecting every part of my life and the things I actually enjoy about my life and my r/ship!!
Thanks! a blushing *Luthien*