so worried please help......

[loobyloo]

hey guys,

well as some of you may know from the chat room, im getting married at the weekend to a fantastic man. But when i was younger i suffered from anorexia which may have been the cause or the cause of my social phobia. Now, even though i am over it, Im contantly worried what people think of me and unfortunately it restricts my life. i dont like going places on my own because of the thought of what people might be thinking/saying about me, or if i look at myself in the mirror i just see bad things. I cant take a compliment from people because i honestly dont see it, and so when i get married im really worried of what all the guests will all think of me, plus worrying like this may bring on a panic attack. Help!!!! :(

Fi x

[Granny Primark]

Hi Fiona,

Firstly let me wish you all the very best for your wedding and wish you both a very happy life together.
The anticipation is far worse than the reality.
Easy for others to say but try to focus on you and your partner rather than the others at the wedding.
Hope you have a fantastic day and cant wait to seee you wedding photos.

Take care
LYNN xx

[Eclipse]

Fi,

Firstly

CONGRATULATIONS & GOOD LUCK TO YOU BOTH!

Ditto to what Lynn & Heidi have already have said.

I also hope that you'll be so caught up in the excitement that your anxieties will be forced to take a back seat once 'they see' that the bond you & your new hubby share is stronger than anything they may try & throw at you on that day.

Loads of Best Wishes

Magz
XX

[carlin]

Hi there, and congratulations, where's my invite though!!! Each and every one of your guests will be happy for you, they are your friends and family and wish you only happiness, you will be fine, of course nerves will play a small part, but that is very natural. You and your husband will look fantastic, you will have a wonderful day and so will all the people you have invited to share this day with you. Can't wait to see the photo's. take care and have a happy life together!!!! xxxJean

[loobyloo]

aww thanks carlin, magz, loppylyn and hiddy

Im having quite a bad day today [V] its so dissapointing because i was feeling quite positive yesturday but today is a totally different story. I havent been out at all and i just feel like i want to curl up in a ball. Everytime i think about the wedding today i have nerves. I hope im a bit better by tomoro bcuz we have a hectic day planning the final preparations. Hopefully as well the rehersal will make me a little more relaxed. Fingers crossed [:I]

Thanks again guys for all ur msgs xx

"Now that drugs dont work, they just make you worse but I know I'll see your face again"

[carlin]

Hi darling, right, i am allowing you to curl up in a ball for the length of time it takes to watch a dvd. then you are going to have something nice to eat, then you are going to have a lovely long soak in the bath, few candles and some music. Then you are going to have a nice early night, you are allowed to read for a while, and tomorrow will be fab. Now take care and say goodnight to granny-carlin xxx (jean)

[loobyloo]

lol thanks carlin, i think that sounds like a brilliant idea. I'll give it a go.

'being happy isnt having everything you want, its wanting what you have'

[loobyloo]

Oh and goodnight lol

'being happy isnt having everything you want, its wanting what you have'

[Lindalou64]

congrats to you.......aw you will be fine hun......its ya nerves playing games with you...god i rememeber gettin married and thot i would just die but i didnt it was one of the best days of my life and i know it will for you also..............heres to ya .cheers...........Linda[8D]

[surreylady]

Hope this helps....
When i got married I was suffering panic attacks and got all worked up about how I would be on the day.... but when it came I was so busy concentrating on my lines and my hubby that I forgot to panic lol. It really will be fine, just focus on you and your wonderful husband, and I am sure you will have a great day.

with love
Mandy xxx

positive attitude brings positive results