I've always felt this need to be popular for some unknown reason. I had a wonderful childhood as an only child and later came 2 lovely step-sisters. However, at the age of 37 I really need to get this in check.
I've been married for just over a year and am very happy. My hubby and I are absolute best friends and love each others company so we're very blessed. I'm starting to notice that I don't have as much in common with my friends anymore and am blaming myself for it. One of my friends talks purely about money, Dubai, Selfridges and more money - she married 'rich - and as an earthy, bohemian person, I find it all very shallow. My other friend smokes crazy amounts of weed despite having a lovely 4 year old son and equally, I just can't relate.
The problem is that I blame myself for feeling, well, reluctant to see them (even though I frequently see them and keep in touch) as from what I can see, it seems to be the 'norm' to have friends around you. I think I'm maybe clinging onto friendships that aren't really benefiting me?
I have other friends too but apart from a couple of them, I don't feel the 'need' to connect and go out on girly nights. How do I just accept that this is what I want and not feel like I 'should' in order to conform?!
I think I see other people with lovely friends so assume it's my fault that I'm unable to attract better people! Does that sound awful?