Lonely Tonight. Hubby doesn't care

[cat85pink]

Thanks

Same goes for you, if you ever need a friendly ear pm me

[xvolatileheart]

I completely know how you feel. Last night was rough for me. My husband and I were meant to go to a party, but I just couldn't do it. I let him know I was feeling down but wanted him to go and have a good night. As soon as he left I broke down and cried. He didn't even come home, he ended up staying at his friends' flat. Now it's Sunday afternoon and he still isn't home. I don't want to burden him by forcing him to stay in the flat with me but I feel so lonely.

Communication is definitely key. Let him know how you're feeling, and hopefully you can reach a compromise.

[cat85pink]

Im so sorry youre feeling lonely,

I always told my husband id never hold him back because I couldn't always go out, but he goes to his friends house every night, I go with him sometimes and have a chat with his friends wife, but I dont think asking him to stay in a few nights is anything to do with my anxiety, I just want to spend time as husband & wife,

Is your partner home yet? Must of been hard waking up alone?

[xvolatileheart]

I think that's totally reasonable, and I'm sure he would understand if you told him that! Try to phrase it in a way that doesn't seem accusatory. Maybe say "I know you enjoy going out with your friends, and I'm really glad you get to do that. I would really like to at least have a couple of nights per week just as husband and wife, that would mean a lot to me."

He came home in the afternoon and we've spent the evening together after I had a little go at him. It was hard waking up alone, it worried me and I felt really upset with him. I think we've resolved it now though.

[cat85pink]

My hubby knows how I feel we've been together 4 years and he's been going out just about every night ever since,

I can't quite put my finger on why he does this, sometimes he is rather childish not in a nasty way a little bit selfish, he enjoys playing computer games & has an addictive personally where he repetitively does something he enjoys, and sitting watch tv he does not, he fidgets and doesn't enjoy it,

The thing I find hard is how he chats away to online gamers & I've said before he talks to them more than me,

Don't get me wrong he's never aggressive or nasty, he just acts like a lazy boy

He didnt have a good childhood like myself hes learnt to keep his emotions in, and has a brick wall up, like he has no worrys & lifes all fun, sometimes this is a good thing as im over emotional & worry enough for us both, but we have some money worrys, trying to move house, and starting a family, all this on my mind & hubby lost in computer games maybes its easier to avoid things that way, but I feel it makes him distant & uninterested,

Im glad your hubbys back home, and youve explained how you felt, hopefully next time you'll manage to go with him,

[xvolatileheart]

I think a lot of men are like that! I have to remind myself that my husband and I settled down very young and he's still not "grown up." He can be very selfish and not communicate in an adult way, but I do feel like he's getting there slowly. Do you think your husband is improving?

[cat85pink]

My husband is 31 he had ADHD as a child & teenager so maybes he still has some of those issues

We have a very important fertility appointment tomorrow 40 miles to the hospital, im so nervous,

Hubby sat and watch a program we both enjoy this evening & then he put the next episode on, we end up watching 3 hours worth :-D

He's gone our now, but im ok as im gonna have a nice bath & iron my clothes ready,

I just hate this feeling of butterflys

Im glad it sounds like your hubby is improving im not sure men ever really grow up theyre just like big boys lol