BDD male breast

[heavymind]

Hi,
My weight is 89kgs and my height is 173cms. I am overweight so. I have fat accumlation in the cheast and it makes me feel very bad. I am not sure if it is gynecomastia, or just some fat accumlation because of overweight. When I look in the mirror, that too when not at home, say in a Gym, dormitory etc, I instantaneouly get an anxiety. Suddenly something changes and the brain sinks. I think it goes into a little bit of DR out of the anxiety.

I will be glad to listen to anybody else who may have the same or similar problem and also on how to improve. I want to be able to confidently be bare cheasted with out worriing what others think, when I have to, like when going outings, to homes of close relatives etc...

I have alway hidden my cheast because its something that makes me very anxious.



asdf

[Chopper]

Morning,

'bitch tits' as they're called in the bodybuilding world are often the result of steroid use so I have to ask the question "are you using gear?"

You mention the gym so it's logical to assume you work out? What chest exercises do you do? The core one is bench press but there are also dumbell flyes and presses, dips, press-ups, cable cross-overs etc. etc. etc. so don't feel distraught about your sagging tits, do something about them!

Stop feeling sorry about the way you look, lose some weight and work out more, Fat Boy!![}]

Happiness and light to all,
'Chopper'

I saw her once, one little while, and then no more:
’Twas Eden’s light on Earth a while, and then no more.
Amid the throng she passed along the meadow-floor:
Spring seemed to smile on Earth awhile, and then no more;
But whence she came, which way she went, what garb she wore
I noted not; I gazed a while, and then no more!

James Clarence Mangan 1803 - 1849

[heavymind]

I dont do any heavy exercises. I only jog in the Gym and I never have used any steroids or any such. I have always been overweight since childhood. Now the most important concern of mine, is not even to reduce the breast, it is to reduce the anxiety as a result of it. I do regular jogs and I have lost 5 kgs in the last 1.5 months and I will continue to do this. However I want to be more confident and loose the fear of what people think and be able to do the things everybody does without thinking... Its hard to say everything, really...

asdf

[Chopper]

5 kilos in six weeks, that's great, well done.[^]

I hate aerobic/cardiovascular work and prefer tha anerobic, barbell/dumbell training.

Why not add in a few press-ups or bench-presses before or after your run to target your problem area?

Some body conscious people actualy expose their supposed weak points e.g. calves, arms, midrift to motivate themselves to attack their shortcomings. I'm not suggesting you get your man-boobs out in public but perhaps if you wore a vest in the gym you might stir yourself into working that little harder?

Happiness and light to all,
'Chopper'

I saw her once, one little while, and then no more:
’Twas Eden’s light on Earth a while, and then no more.
Amid the throng she passed along the meadow-floor:
Spring seemed to smile on Earth awhile, and then no more;
But whence she came, which way she went, what garb she wore
I noted not; I gazed a while, and then no more!

James Clarence Mangan 1803 - 1849

[yorkylover]

Hi heavy mind,sorry your feeling so low.My fella has put on loads of wieght since I met him.I still love him to bits.I dont expect you have male breasts,its probably just excess wieght pet.Dont put yourself down.
Its not always that easy to lose wieght.
Ellen XX

[trac67]

<b id="quote">quote:</b id="quote"><table border="0" id="quote"><tr id="quote"><td class="quote" id="quote">Stop feeling sorry about the way you look, lose some weight and work out more, Fat Boy!! </td id="quote"></tr id="quote"></table id="quote">

WOAH thats very harsh [V]

Trac xx

'Live your life with arms wide open, today is where your book begins, the rest is still unwritten'

[Chopper]

Harsh but fair Trac', harsh but fair.

I know knocks to confidence are the last thing 'us lot' need but sometimes mild denigration is a useful tool in motivation. Agreed?

I'm sure our new friend will keep us abreast [Ugh] of developments[Oops!].

Happiness and light to all,
'Chopper'

I saw her once, one little while, and then no more:
’Twas Eden’s light on Earth a while, and then no more.
Amid the throng she passed along the meadow-floor:
Spring seemed to smile on Earth awhile, and then no more;
But whence she came, which way she went, what garb she wore
I noted not; I gazed a while, and then no more!

James Clarence Mangan 1803 - 1849

[trac67]

<b id="quote">quote:</b id="quote"><table border="0" id="quote"><tr id="quote"><td class="quote" id="quote">Harsh but fair Trac', harsh but fair.</td id="quote"></tr id="quote"></table id="quote">

Nooo comments like that can really affect a low self esteem sufferer.

Trac xx


'Live your life with arms wide open, today is where your book begins, the rest is still unwritten'

[nomorepanic]

Hi heavymind.

Don't be embarrassed about your body. We all have something we want to change about ourselves.

Do you suffer with BDD? Sometimes BDD sufferers see something that others don't as I am sure you are aware.

Certainly some specific exercises at the gym will help tone up those muscles - make sure you ask someone there which specific bits of equipment will help you and make sure they show you how to use them and for how long.

Chopper - your comments were way out of order and I cringed reading them. Do you think they were useful atall? Do you know anything about BDD. How can you say it is fair when you don't even know this person. Throw-away comments like those can be very harmful to someone especially if their confidence is low as it is.

Heavymind - I would ignore choppers comments if I was you.



Nicola

People will forget what you said
People will forget what you did
But people will never forget how you made them feel

[sophieunderscore]

Hi Heavymind

I read this post and felt like I needed to respond.

Firstly do you know if you have BDD? If so you need to address this and in the process your problems about your chest. I would really reccomend seeing a doctor as quite often in BDD sufferers even if you do get your chest "flat" or however you'd like it to be, you still wouldn't be happy, I think it's very important to look at your thought processes before actually looking to change the physical - of course you should still exercise etc.

This will sound quite personal but do you have a partner and do you feel comfortable in front of them? Also you mention you don't feel comofrtable in a gym or dorm... is it the anxiety about other people seeing your chest? Are you comfortable with it when it's just you?

Sorry if this doesn't make sense

*big hugs*

Sophie