Step father's offer of help

[PanickyPolly]

Hi everyone,

I haven't seen my step dad (the only human being who remotely cares and keeps in touch) in ages because I've been so depressed I knew I'd say something very morbid and upset him but he turned up today and I explained my situation of getting worse and probably not being able to see a psych and he offered to pay for me to see a psych privately. I'm obvioulsy very grateful for his offer of help but unsure what to do as I hate taking charity and am a grown woman and should be able to fend for myself. However I'm on benefits, can't afford private healthcare and get suicidal so it's basically a life or death situation when you think about it. Just wondered what you thought. Private psychs cost about £30-£50 a time and he's paid almost that a week on food for me when I had my benefits taken off me. And I only accepted that offer of help as I would have starvd without it! I also sometimes wonder if I say yes and something goes wrong (like my mum twists him onto her side again as she's done before) he could use this against me.

PP x

[ceecee]

hi pp
i would say that you must do whatever you think is best!!!!at the end of the day if you are having suicidal thoughts then i would take his offer,but only you can decide whats best
if you do decide to go ahead i wish you the very,very best of luck.
take care
ceecee x

[creatrix]

Polly, he wouldn't offer if he didn't love you. Give him a big hug, tell him thank you, and go.

Good luck!!

[reddevil]

Hi,

I bet it is nice to know somebody cares for you in this way and must understand what your going through.

Over the years I have suffered with Anxiety, my farther must of spend a few grand on getting me checkedout privatly to help calm me down (mri, ct scans etc).

Red

[PanickyPolly]

Thanks guys...I think I'm going to have to take him up on his offer actually as the chances of getting pyschiatric help on the NHS is very slim.

[PanickyPolly]

Have a bit of a dilemma now. My step father's behaviour was very odd today and combines with his odd ways over the last couple of years I am strating to wonder if he is senile. Wouldn't want to take advantage of someone like that!

[jo61]

You've already identified him as someone who cares so I'm sure it's not the senility talking. Take the help, he wouldn't offer if he didn't understand.


Jo

[clickaway]

Polly,

I was going to ask you how many sessions he was prepared to pay for. You need to ascertain how long a course you would need. How would you feel if your sessions came to a premature end?

Cheers

Ray


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