hi all. I am not sure this is the right place to post but if not, apologies.
i am a late 30s man who has had terrible HIV anxiety now for many years. It is without a doubt the most crippling and depressing aspect of my otherwise lovely life. I am now in prolonged counselling to work on the issue and am beginning to understand why I suddenly panic over incidents which, by every medical doctor i consult, are zero risk. My last perceived exposure was last week while I was abroad. I had a massage and was offered a hand job at the end. I refused thinking how strong and brave I was for fighting the urge! Spool forward 7 days and I am convinced something happened or may have happened which I do not recall. Did she scrap her fingers along my bum hole and transmit blood? was her arm cut while she massaged me? on and on it goes. My stomach is now a total mess and of course, I am googling like crazy. To give you some context I have likely had 15 HIV tests in the last 5 years and have never had any risk beyond a handjob or an erotic massage.
What do I need? i need some sympathy for my mental illness; i need a doctor to reassure me that any form of massage isn't going to transmit HIV and I want to join a group of like minded people who share my anxieties.
I also should mention i suffer really bad IBS as a result of my perpetual fear and of course, put this down to acute hiv infection!!
thanks for listening.