help needed

[91Aycliffe]

I have intrusive thoughts that I want to be with a lady I met but don't even really know its driving me insane as I love my wife and family

[mnaha]

Put it out of your head then and stop wanting to..happens to many people and they just stop thinking about it and forget it..nothing ocd about this.. just average horny guy.

[91Aycliffe]

That's the point I can't and don't want to feel like this thanks

[mnaha]

Sorry was really none of my business hope everything works out for you . Sorry again putting my nose where it didn't belong.

[91Aycliffe]

No problem it just scares me that's all don't want to feel like this

[Jayamashey]

The fear you feel is a good indication because it's your body/minds way of letting you know that it is against your beliefs. However, your challenge is that the thought of it means you WILL do it - which is completely false.

One thing you could also try when the thoughts come:
Think about if the woman was completely naked and wanted you to be with her AND your wife was standing and watching would you do it? No. You probably could picture and feel the pain your wife would experience. Now take that understanding of what she would be feeling to remind yourself how much you love her. So you are putting your focus not on the thought of the woman, but on your beautiful wife.

[91Aycliffe]

Thanks a lot

[H.Daniel]

Because you are scared of this thought it means that you really love your family and you are afraid of losing them. This is a good thing and I think you will overcome the negative thought in the end. The most important thing is not to do something, thinking at it is one thing but actually doing it is a completely different story.

[91Aycliffe]

Thanks

[viking111]

Hello!
I've got one similar issue that's really connected with OCD.
So I was thinking "what if I am gay?"
My mind disproves that thought by thinking rationally.
But then my mind comes back and says "what if you like transsexual girls with men's parts?" and a wave of emotions like being turned on and enjoying it comes with it.
This thought really freaks me out, what if I secretly like that or smth?
I really hate these thoughts and don't want them, but they seem to turn me on.