Thats the problem with these meds Nicola, there is a fair bit of guesswork involved.
I think there has to come a point where it becomes a matter that the side effects are unusual and at that point its either going to be a reduction or moving to another. Thats the reality of it I guess and the way I looked at it when it was driving me mad was that if I stuck it out a little bit longer, at least I don't have to take a chance on something (and any side effects that brings).
The fact you are having some better periods is good. Mine was just non stop but far worse earlier in the day which matches my pattern of anxiety anyway. I know that Ven is less intense per mg compared to Duloxetine so maybe that explains why mine was constant but quick and yours is less constant but taking a bit longer?
If it just doesn't stop, then there is an issue to make a decision on but you are not there yet and still have a chance this will break and you can get back to where you were before on this dose. The increased anxiety and recent trauma will certainly make you more conscious of things on top of it all as well and this tends to feed the cycle (I'm not saying you could deal with that in a CBT way because I think when we go through this, its often beyond that rational method and we need it to calm down first).
Since my most distressing side effect occurred upon waking for 2 hours, I found Diazepam would mitigate that a fair bit and I wasn't left with as much residual anxiety afterwards. If you can identify when its at its worst, use the Diazepam to get through that if needed and if you feel able to, go without at other times.