Hi All,
Just a thread about things that has have been happening on the forum and Admins response to them, not aimed at any one person in particular but all that have been involved. There will be no arguing on this thread please only comment on it if you have constructive to say, any comments we deem to not be constructive will be removed!
You may have noticed a little bit of tension on the NMP forums in the past week or so which the Admin team has been doing its best to resolve.
We have been finding it difficult as just when we think we have got through it all, another thread is hijacked and then we have more threads and messages to sort through so then it never ends up being sorted at all.
To be honest how we now see it is 6 of one and half a dozen of the other, no matter what started it, it now appears to be one ‘gang’ against another. This is another reason why we are finding it difficult to sort out.
No More Panic is NOT about that, it is about everyone supporting others through anxiety and panic, and it has saddened the admins how that has been forgotten over the past week! If you cannot answer constructively on a thread then it is best not to post at all as things like this happen on occasion. It causes more grief and anxiety for members even if they aren’t involved in the ‘arguments’.
Please ask yourself this and answer it honestly to yourself….. Could anything I have said over the last week have been taken the wrong way and caused someone more anxiety? Because I think a lot of you would honestly have to answer it with a yes!
NMP is not about sides, there are no ‘leaders’ (we admins see our role as facilitators, intervening only when absolutely necessary) and it certainly doesn’t condone ‘gangs’ of people pitting themselves against one another! We totally understand that it is a big community and that not everyone is going to get on with each other, but is there actually any need to bring that into public?? It just shows you in a negative light and as we have seen, it makes things turn ugly on the forum causing more anxiety.
In all honesty, now this has turned into a free for all we have no idea who to ‘have words with’ and who to warn, nor what or who started it. But what we do ask is for it to stop now as it is not helping anyone at all. We may have messages to send out to a few people but I think we need to leave the ‘dust to settle’ a bit before we do that.
Thank you to those who have apologised to us and in public that is much appreciated.
We just ask you to remember what NMP is about which is support!!
One last point I would like to make about the Admin team as there have been some negative comments made about us that I would like to address.
The admins cannot be on the forum 24x7 as we all have jobs and lives as well, but we do ask people to report posts, if they want to bring it to our attention, using the triangle button on the top right of a post. We also ask that individuals send us messages and not pass messages on via other members. We are not that scary lol.
Some of the admins choose to set their on-line status to invisible but that does not mean we are not on the forum. This means we do not show up on the active members list on the bottom of the forum but it does not mean to say that we are not on-line.
We all have lives to lead too, me personally I have work and also studying for a course and many times recently I have had to stop work to deal with things on here which should not be the case. At the minute, I should be doing an assessment for the course but I am here trying to sort this out instead.
We are all here voluntarily; sometimes a lot more than we should be, but there is normally one of us online at any given time and it is a large and time-consuming job making sure each member is safe on the site, removing spammers, sifting through members, checking they are ‘legit’ and reading all the posts plus more! Please give us a little bit of grace, we cannot all be on here 24/7. One final point: we are also anxiety sufferers which means we understand but also, on occasion, have our own problems to contend with. We rarely ask for support on the forums but we appreciate the responses we get when we do.
NMP Admin team