Re: Melanoma fear: intense HA
I am in the same boat too. One of my biggest HA fears is melanoma/skin cancer and moles. I am pale and have a lot of atypical (irregular) moles. I have one on my leg that I picked when I was 15 and it grew bag 4 times the size! it has irregular edges but its all the same colour and flat. It has a pale 'halo' round it. I showed it to the doctor and he wasn't concerned. I also have a very small, dark brown banana shaped mole on my bum that I had a massive melt down over once, again - showed the doctor and she wasn't concerned in the slightest I have an irregular mole on my arm that is raised and sometimes it is itchy which does worry me as much as it used to.
I have found my mole fear got much better since realising that everyone has moles, and a lot of people have funny looking moles, especially if you have pale skin. My fiancé is even paler than me and he must have literally thousands of moles. Some are REALLY dodgy looking but he has had them all checked and they are fine
I hope this helps reassure you. I understand how real the fear is though and even though my HA is getting better I still think about my moles a lot.
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