Hi. I have medically diagnosed Aspergers, which my psychologist thinks my dad has as well, and a long history of Anxiety, including OCD and hypochondria. My sister also has some ASD traits, especially hypersensitivity to certain sounds (my guess is misophonia). Unfortunately, this does not result in closer bonding but instead precipitates frequent confrontation. My dad is a perfectionist, and he can't stand it if my mum does the dishes "wrong" or doesn't say things properly. This often results in disproportionate criticism and sometimes mutual yelling if mum decides to protest. Other times, the conflict may be caused by a certain activity or behaviour he does that he doesn't consider annoying, but that everyone else and especially my sister does. Unfortunately, she often doesn't restrain herself, and she says things like "shut up." This then makes the whole thing explode into an orgey of yelling, crying and door slamming.
In any of these cases, if I try to intervene, dad just says "it's none of your business" or (to me more offensive) "mind your own."
I know that my parents aren't going to seperate or anything like that. Everyone just gets caught up in the heat of the moment, made worse by my sister's attitude and dad's poor ability due to Aspergers to understand that he is in the wrong. It just causes me a lot of anxiety when it happens, or when it feels like it is going to happen. In conducive situations, I become extremely tense, and when it does happen, retreating to my room to try and get away from it doesn't block out the sound. I'd just like to know if anyone else on this forum has had similar issues and if anyone has a way to deal with it.
Regards, Peterthegreatworrier.