Hi all,
I really could do with some help.
I have been posting on here for many years on and off regarding my depression and fatigue issues.
At the start of the year I met a lovely girl through an online dating site - I didn't intend or expect a relationship to come of it, just a bit of fun but we soon clicked and everything was going well (apart from the fact that I've been out of work for a few years with my fatigue and mental health issues but she would obviously have known this from the off)
Then in March, a month and a half after we met, I was diagnosed with thyroid cancer. She has been my rock through it, and I wouldn't have been able to deal with it as well as I have without her by my side. I had my thyroid and the cancerous tumours removed from the left side of my neck in April, the day after my 30th birthday and had radioactive iodine treatment in August. However, at the start of this month, I have been told there is more cancer, this time on the right hand side. I have also found a new lump on the left hand side which has made me incredibly anxious.
Through all this, like I say, she has been my rock, but a few months back we kind of went though an almost break-up because she couldn't handle the fact that I didn't work/earn money. Then it happened again about a month later and she said if I wanted to continue to be with her then I'd have to get counselling for my depression and fatigue, because she can't handle my negativity and glass half empty attitude. She also said I would have to get back into some voluntary work.
I tried so hard to do this amidst my illness and ongoing cancer, but I wasn't getting anywhere. Now a few weeks ago she decided she wanted some space and a break. After a week or two of her not seeing me I decided to take matters into my own hands and go and see her. We talked and she agreed to come see me Wednesday (last night) We went for a meal but ended up arguing over something so trivial (the fact I was going to spend Saturday night with my housemate - "I thought we'd be able to get back on track, and you know we always spend weekends together" she said - despite the fact she hasn't let me see her the past two weekends!)
I quickly said I would cancel with my housemate if it meant seeing her at the weekend, as I'd give anything to spend the weekend with her. But she is so stubborn and said no. Then we had a chat in her car for about an hour where she was telling me she's unhappy and she can't do it anymore - despite the fact she was earlier saying she thought we could get back on track and spend the weekend together.
I am so confused and so upset :( I feel so empty and haven't been able to stop crying since last night - with my depression, the cancer and the fact I feel incredibly alone and lost without her. I have been feeling so low about it that I've been to Samaritans twice.
She is everything to me and I love her with all my heart and she says she doesn't doubt this but going by what she's saying, she doesn't feel the same way :( I can't cope. I don't know what to do. She was saying last night how she will see me in two weeks - but that will be an eternity and I bet she won't see me :(
I'm not sure if this section of the forum is right for this kind of post. But a virtual hug or real hug would be perfect right now :(