quarrel with my wife last night and have a heavy conflict ....she scratched my hand till bleeds . this is not the first we quarrel and not the first time she scratched my hand with scars.... whenever quarrel I have urged that I will kill her.... and yesterday I had urges of killing her and after a while the urges change to killing myself to make her regret.... I keep having the thought that if I die she will sad and she regret for her action ...... I m so scared of these thoughts..... I am now in my office not so willing to go home... I scare I will act on my urges either killed her or myself....
but the urges of killing myself is stronger than killing her..... I m so stress and scared ..... I don't know whether I will really act on killing myself.... jumping of from a building...... I don't know whether its will harm ocd or I really have the intention of killing myself .....
everytime we quarrel or fight I will have this thoughts.... mostly is killing her but this time I haver the thought of killing myself . I am still angry with her.... because of the scar she gave to me on my hand .... and it look embarrassing .
please advise