Grr, that's one of my pet hates!
Empathising has no connection to what you are ill with. It's not a matter of guilt tripping people into being ashamed of feeling ill. If you had a cold and were wittering on about feeling at deaths door then I can understand it, it's just a cold, not a mental health issue that can be debilitating. It's just stigma, isn't it?
The way I tackle people if they say things like that to me is remind them that we live in a world with far more tragic issues than someone who has lived a good life in a first world country who then tragically is struck down with a terminal illness. There are many people in this world who live awful lives every day and many who never make it past babies, they never have a chance.
When it comes to "X is worse of than you" you can always look to developing nations, and war zones, to point out that we are damn well lucky to even get to age X! I'm only reminded of this more from some of the people I have spoken to on this very website who have been through more than I ever will just because of where they were born.
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That's like saying you shouldn't have cancer because you believe in God. If they were unfortunate enough to be in that situation would they not approach a doctor hoping God will cure them? If not, that would make them hypocrites.
Mental heath stigma again really.
Please don't feel guilty, why would God want you to feel guilty because you don't feel strong enough to do things? God would surely want you not to give up and be a good loving person? You can still be that regardless of any anxiety disorder, the strength can come in time.
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That's an awful thing to say to anyone. Heat of the moment, maybe? Maybe she meant that you are wasting your life and you won't have lived at all when you look back? But as an agoraphobic, or anyone with mental health struggles, these are all thoughts you've probably had about yourself a long time ago (I know I did) and they serve no purpose other than to hurt you because you know what you are missing and don't want to live like this.
I don't think this issue is quite like trying to get people to understand your anxiety, I think this is more about respect within a friendship and as such it needs raising. The friend needs to remember that friendship is not about bashing the other person and there are some boundaries that need to be followed. You should not be expected to feel hurt by comments like this or be put down due to having mental health issues.
I hope your friend listens to you and even moreso I hope she has already been thinking about her hurtful comments and knows she has acted badly. If not, that's more a personality issue and lack of decency.