Quote Originally Posted by NoraB View Post
The difference is that BB and Ponder both have an autism diagnosis. My issue with BB was his/her post-diagnosis attitude (which differed greatly to their 'norm' on here). (An autism diagnosis doesn't give us licence to treat people like shit)

Ponder was here simply to bore everyone shitless with his 'musings' (And woe betide anyone who tried to stop him)

The issues on this thread all started because Pulisa was trying to help BB and BB's response was both unnecessary and unpleasant. I felt bad for Pulisa because she's one of the nicest people on this forum, and she has problems of her own to deal with. (Plus, as an autistic, I don't care to see other autistics try and excuse their bad behaviour)

BB chose not to stick around where he/she may have made a few friends. One of his/her complaints was of not having any friends. Well, attitudes like that are a sure way to make sure that you don't have any, right?

Similarly, Phil chose to ignore us. More than that, he shut his entire thread down and along with it the many pages of people's time and effort. He was called out on his bigotry towards autistic people, and instead of sticking around to maybe learn something and change his opinion on the spectrum that autism is, he chose his offensive response. Before I placed him on ignore, I saw his comment on his Gambling thread (this thread has since been deleted) but not before he blamed everybody else for his behaviour. It was admin's fault for not locking the thread. It was our fault for 'going off topic', even though I don't consider suggesting autism as a possibility for his numerous issues and difficulties to be 'going off topic'.

To sympathise with Phil is to enable his behaviour. That's what Ponder did with BB on this thread. (And I don't care if it's NT's doing the enabling or other autistics, it's not acceptable)

This isn't just about Phil being unwilling to accept advice, Lenco, it's about his prejudice towards autistic people. Ignorance regarding autism I can understand. (I was ignorant about autism until my son was assessed) and Phil might have learnt something about autism (and himself) had he chosen to listen to people instead of throwing his toys out of the pram and then kicking the pram over.
Mind you, I can certainly talk on occasions, especially as I can be rather opinionated over certain things, but I don't actually intend to 'bore people sh1tless' though, as certain issues that I personally find a cause for concern might seem relatively trivial and insignificant to others. But I do within reason try to look at other peoples' points of view on such certain matters and acknowledge that some of my views and opinions might not always be correct nor rational. For instance, I have had a bit of a thing about graffiti for many years now, but my dad admitted recently that he's now basically beyond caring about such issues, as he's got far more important things to be concerned about, especially my mom right now, though he obviously doesn't condone the serial graffitists going around recklessly tagging (and vandalism/ASB in general).

And I agree with you about Phil and his alleged ignorance/prejudice towards us Auties, plus his endless pooh-poohing of the advice many of us on here took the time and effort to give him, though it's obviously not right for us to be 'ganging up' on Phil in this thread right now and 'talking about him and not to him', especially as he hasn't yet posted on it. Hence my cautious remark a couple of posts back about it probably being a bit non-PC.