I've no doubt that you are intelligent but you are also very vulnerable.
Fair enough.
Taken from a previous thread..
You might want to reign in the hostile attitude when commenting then BB..I've been a member of this site for almost 20 years but I haven't visited for a while. Back then I hadn't got my diagnosis of Asperger's and I'd recently got divorced. Now I find myself isolated and lonely and I'd like to make a few friends.
Pulisa is one of the best on here. She's kind, compassionate, and everything that makes for a lovely human being. She has a lot of experience around autism. She was trying to support you!
A thought is harmless unless we believe it.
Hi again Bluebottle, I’ve been debating with myself about whether to reply to you again. I wondered if you might view my words as hostile, as perhaps you often view the words of others as hostile? But then I thought even if you do think I am being unkind, then that won’t make anything worse for you. But, if there is even the remotest chance that we can help you by suggesting you look at things differently, then it is worth it.
You say you are isolated and lonely and that must be really hard for you. I have loved ones who are autistic and may have autistic tendencies myself so I know a little bit about how social interactions can be stressful.
I feel I have got to know Pulisa a bit over the years. I’ve seen her help so many people with kindness, tact and great wisdom. She has helped me in my very darkest moments. So I know with certainty that she replied to you with nothing other than a desire to help a little, to offer support and insight.
It was interesting to me that you viewed her words as malign (“patronising”). And then, as NoraB pointed suggested, I began to wonder if this is a common theme for you? I wonder if you often find people are being hostile, patronising or unkind? And whether this leads to a difficulty in forming friendships...... and in turn your feelings of isolation? If there is even a remote chance this is true I would very much urge you to think carefully and openly about how you interpret people (incredibly hard I know)..... because the key to unlocking a more rewarding and connected life might be there.
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