Re: How to overcome depression when your life is making you depressed
I'm so sorry you're feeling this way. I struggle with self esteem too (which I'm sure you know from my posts). You know what's funny though? I've found that between my low self esteem and HA that whatever I'm freaking out about at that moment feels SO real....I can't see it any other way, am sure others see the same thing I do so feel so awful, etc. But when I zero in on one thing, I don't even notice the others. So when I'm obsessing over my scars, my brows look perfectly fine to me (I've been thinking my brows are thinning). When I'm in a state over my brows, my skin looks totally fine.
Strange how that works. It can shift daily. So clearly, logically, it's not really THAT bad, just my perspective is at the time. I promise it doesn't make it any easier though. Fixating like that is normal with anxiety I think.
I'm sorry you don't feel supported. Does your spouse know how you feel, not just unsupported but also in regards to your self esteem/anxiety? Also, how old is your daughter - it may just be an age thing. I know I was a pill when I was younger! Some of it was irritability due to massive anxiety, would that be possible for her too?
I think its interesting that you mention you are having trouble loving yourself because others don't love you (in your eyes). But that's not self love. Self love means that their opinions shouldn't matter because YOU love yourself.
You may not be ready to look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself you are beautiful (though of course you are) but perhaps you can start complimenting yourself in other ways? Try listing good qualities you possess, or keep a journal and write daily one thing (or more!) that you've done that that day that you are proud of. Maybe it's going shopping or walking away from the mirror when you're about to start obsessing. Anything positive!
I hope you start to feel better and see your worth soon. Hugs.
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