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[MyNameIsTerry]

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I feel for you VBJ try and take a complete break from the forum for a few days ATB

^ This. I can see Venus on there a lot and I hope she is prioritising herself. There is a never ending stream of HAers through here.

[Elen]

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^ This. I can see Venus on there a lot and I hope she is prioritising herself. There is a never ending stream of HAers through here.

No she isn't and is about to get a huge BOOOOOOOOOOOOOT from me.

Between here and chat she is doing far too much

[Bigboyuk]

Yes I tend to agree with you Elen she does mean well but she needs time away for her own sake to recharge her batteries I got a feeling that booooooooooot is a big one, and will do the trick Ouch ATB

[MyNameIsTerry]

No she isn't and is about to get a huge BOOOOOOOOOOOOOT from me.

Between here and chat she is doing far too much

Good. I learnt a very hard lesson thinking I had to do everything, it's what caused my GAD in the first place.

My GF is still like this. When her employer is demanding everything yesterday I ask her whether the consequence of not working yourself into the ground is a senior manager with a grump on for not getting their way. I also point out the sector she works in isn't stopping global terrorism or saving lives in a hospital.

It's part of our personality but balance is important. Heaping more stress on yourself when the reality is there are others to take the strain is something to learn to recognise.

I'm glad to hear she has friends watching out for her.

[MyNameIsTerry]

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Shall we think about the mental health of the Admins? Why make things harder for them?

[MyNameIsTerry]

As admins we feel that a few things needed to be reiterated after occurrences on the forum over the last couple of months.

No More Panic is an inclusive forum, our youngest members can be from the age of 13. We are a large community and every one of our members are different, they have different opinions and different disorders BUT one thing which unites us is mental illness and all the problems that that entails

We have evolved over the years, from a small forum with a few members covering panic and anxiety to one that now covers many types of mental health…. Phobias, Health anxiety, ocd amongst others.

There are many different types of members in different stages of the illness and recovery, and at different readiness to accept advice.

Some of us keep ourselves to ourselves and just read the forums and never post, some post occasionally when we feel our worse and others feel the need to post what seems constantly about very minor things.

The latter can cause conflicts when there is constant posting, this can just be the member’s way of trying to cope with their illness and it can be really frustrating for other members when they are trying to give advice and sometimes it appears that the OP isn’t listening to what they have to say.

We would therefore appreciate if the OP could acknowledge the advice given and even thank the members that have given the advice. It is then up to the OP if they take up the advice or not.

OP Have you taken up some of the advice given? did it work for you? I am sure a lot of the people who try to help would like to know how it went, and would go some way to our members feeling appreciated for helping you out and make them more likely to advise you in the future.

If you become frustrated with other members constant posting then the best way to deal with that is to ignore the threads, don’t give the advice if people do not seem to appreciate it, that way it doesn’t add to your frustration.

Public arguments on the forum are really not needed and just serve to cause tension amongst members and increase people’s anxiety which is of course the opposite of what NMP is here for. Verbal abuse of any member is very much frowned upon and you open yourself up to warnings and ultimately a ban from the forum.

If you have problems with what a member is saying on a thread then PM that member to ‘discuss’ it, do not initiate an argument on the thread, if you have a problem with what has been said on a thread then another option is to report the thread/reply using the report triangle at the top right of the thread/post

All of the arguments tend to distract from the original question asked and sometimes the OP never gets the answer/advice they are looking for, please try to keep threads on topic.

99.9% of us on NMP suffer or care for someone with mental health problems, so treat members, how you would like to be treated yourself with your illness

Above all please remember the aim of No More Panic, to give help and support to people who are sufferers of mental health problems.

Thanks for reading and we wish you well in your battle with Mental Illness, please help us keep NMP a happy and supportive place to be

NMP Admin team

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And a reminder that if Admin think people are posting just to have a go at others, their posts will be deleted and they will be barred from that particular thread.

Blunt is acceptable under the correct circumstances, but ridiculing is not.

It affects more people than the OP and will not be tolerated.

Elen

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[venusbluejeans]

Just catching up on here....

I am trying to step back I promise but it is difficult especially when people continue posting on threads even when they say they have had enough..... stop posting folks, do what you say you are going to do and stop keeping threads going and then complaining to the admins that we/ they are doing noting.

Anyway going back to my corner now...

[swgrl09]

Just catching up on here....

I am trying to step back I promise but it is difficult especially when people continue posting on threads even when they say they have had enough..... stop posting folks, do what you say you are going to do and stop keeping threads going and then complaining to the admins that we/ they are doing noting.

Anyway going back to my corner now...

I think it would be lovely to see all of that energy poured into posts that don't get any or very few responses ... I know I haven't been on much, as I started a new job and am feeling so huge with pregnancy, but enough to get the gist of things.

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Also Venus, please take care of yourself. I got so burnt out putting others before my mental health earlier this year. No shame in taking an NMP vacation.

[Bigboyuk]

I think it would be lovely to see all of that energy poured into posts that don't get any or very few responses ... I know I haven't been on much, as I started a new job and am feeling so huge with pregnancy, but enough to get the gist of things.

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Also Venus, please take care of yourself. I got so burnt out putting others before my mental health earlier this year. No shame in taking an NMP vacation.

Yes you are right swgrl09 I have started to reply to single posts a lot more think it's good to try and help others how ever you are feeling And understand NMP is part of Venus's life but for now leave the site for a few days and take a break. Think many of us could do with a NMP vacation I know I would love that perhaps have sub forum for that I would be the first to sign up ATB

[venusbluejeans]

Yes you are right swgrl09 I have started to reply to single posts a lot more think it's good to try and help others how ever you are feeling And understand NMP is part of Venus's life but for now leave the site for a few days and take a break. Think many of us could do with a NMP vacation I know I would love that perhaps have sub forum for that I would be the first to sign up ATB

I will still be responding to my post and in the chat room distracting (not helping)