Hi everyone!
Im going through a rather "odd" phase at the moment and really would appreciate any advice at all on the best way to get through it.
Over the past month I feel Ive made really good progress. Its been a month (almost!) without drink or cigarette both which I abused heavily. After being agoraphobic for nearly a year and suffering panic attacks and depression, I have just recently started venturing out again with good results. I have also been seeing a councellor. On my last visit, we hit on all the reasons why Ive ended up this way and according to him, I am very fortunate because I can pin point the exact events which led to my depression and panic attacks. I have a cause!! Something to work on or "fix" as he put it. This is what we will be dealing with during my next session. He warned me that I may feel angry and resentful towards the people who may have created the events and this is a natural progression.
My problem now is guilt. My councellor was right. Since Ive accepted that the events leading up to my depression were caused by other peoples decisions/circumstances, anger and resentment has set in. The trouble is that it was my partner and familys decisions about certain things that were the cause. (my alpologies if Im not making much sense)
I cant talk to them about this anymore because then I would have to let them know that although they are not "directly" to blame, (I could never think of it like that) they are the reason I am the way I am now. Its so upsetting because I dont want to look at my partner and be angry with him or his family. I dont hold him or them responsible but I do accept that it was their choices and decisions that resulted in how I am today.
They all know something is wrong as Im snappy and withdrawn. Each time I face any of them I feel a huge ball of anger building up. Has anyone else ever felt this way? I feel so guilty.
My councellor described this as "a transition phase!"
I havent had a panic attack in nearly a week after suffering up to 40 a day and I no longer feel like Im living in a thick fog. My councellor suggested that I look at this as if I used to be sitting inside my bubble of depression looking out and longing to escape. Now Im outside the bubble looking in and Im angry that I was stuck inside the bubble for so long.
I just need to deal with the anger and resentment towards my family, understand it and get past it.
Thankyou all for listening
Love Minny...xx