Mirtazapine and mental blocks

[LittleMissAlone]

God, you're so right! This isn't the first blip I've had but they just completely go silent whenever the subject of meds or anything comes up. We've a family friend who's 66 and he's taken to drink and doesn't want to live since his mother died a couple of years ago. I don't have anything like that but I think my parents understand that more than what I go through. I tell them I'm working, not a lot, just a few hours every week. Hilarious really, but they'd be so much more worried if they know the truth. For them it's all about earning money, my generation it's all about being happy (and of course paying the bills which I'm doing too).

Yes, I'm pleased with how I've improved recently, I'm gaining confidence all the time.

Is there a website you could recommend for this ACT therapy you're doing, Pulisa? Wishing good things for you too.

[pulisa]

It's actually my daughter who is doing ACT. She is on the autistic spectrum at the higher functioning end and has her therapy at an NHS specialist unit. I'm not sure how available it is "mainstream"-either in person or online. I think it would be best to have it on a one to one basis personally but I'm sure the waiting list would be very long

There's probably a list of ACT therapists for your area online but this would be private and expensive, I expect.

[LittleMissAlone]

Thank you.

[pulisa]

It's not rocket science at all. If you wanted to you could make it rocket science but I'm all for a plain and simple approach with not too many big words/theories

Can't stand all the psychobabble-no need for it!

[LittleMissAlone]

You're so right. That friend I told you about, her hearts in the right place and I really like her but she constantly talks in that way. She said something about a hologram the other day! Always talking about energy, which is the sort of concept you naturally switch off from unless it's something obvious like electricity. She says things like asking the universe for things and you'll get it, positive aphorisms about health, wealth and love, etc. She's dyslexic and dyspraxic which quite rightly she sees as a gift (she says she's very intelligent), but I reckon she'd be a better practitioner if she didn't talk in this guff. The woman buys and reads all these books from America and actually takes it in and churns it out. She can make it make sense, but it's gone the second she stops. She believes in this thing called swaying where our bodies sway in a certain way to indicate yes or no, even for things that may have happened to us before we were born! 100%. She doesn't get that I don't get it.

She's doing a 2 day EFT course in February costing £175 but without really asking me she's letting me go for free. I've tactfully tried to say please don't keep the place for me if you can fill it. I don't think I could stomach an hours talk on EFT, 2 days...!

With everything she does, she says the most effective thing there is out there is mindfulness, the one thing we agree on!

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This sort of thing:
http://www.tapintoheaven.com/2stuff/stufstest.shtml

[pulisa]

Err...no thank you! I would keep a very wide berth of that stuff. If people want to believe in it and are prepared to spend money on it, fine, but I don't buy into anything like that.

To be honest mindfulness is no big deal and someone has made a packet out of the "concept". I found a lot of the stuff I would do with my autistic daughter when she was little later on got "patented" and people would treat it as the latest therapy when in fact it was just instinct and common sense. The best things in life are free!

[LittleMissAlone]

Yes, my uncle beat his crippling anxiety without drugs simply by putting himself in the situations which scared him. Of course it's not quick and it's not easy but he says that's the only way to beat it. We are creating the thoughts that's doing this so we can take back control. A bit like that book that was doing the rounds recently. He said don't overthink it, don't find reasons, just feel it and don't be frightened. He's fine for years now, though he was bad for ages. I told him he should write a book, he'd make a mint! Hope for us, but of course he's only interested in helping people, not coining it.

[pulisa]

That's feeling the fear and doing it anyway-Claire Weekes made a mint out of this approach but again it's simple things which have the most effect

[LittleMissAlone]

Just tried ringing the first time this week, talk about feeling the fear! Not answering. But will get there and we'll get this thing sorted.

[pulisa]

If at first you don't succeed.....