Originally Posted by
Kathryn313
Hi.
I am in a similar place with fighting the checking urge. I am relatively new to this HA thing so in no-way confess to be either an expert or even successful in beating it. My HA bonfire is definitely still burning.
CBT thinking is however useful for me at the moment but I appreciate how hard it can be to adhere to. In this situation, CBT would note the following -
There are two routes you can follow after the first two steps:
Step 1)You go the toilet
Step 2)Before getting off the toilet, you ask yourself what will checking achieve? and what will not checking achieve?
Route1: Your threat brain will answer first telling you that you have to check, you are under threat and the only way to know that you are ok is to check. The threat brain requires instant relief, it is addicted to checking and by checking you are like an addict getting a hit.
So you check:
If it is ok then you feel relief, for a small while until you need another hit.
If it isn't ok (or more likely you perceive it as not ok), then your threat brain goes into overdrive - like an addict overdosing, you cant think straight, you are out of control and there is nothing you can do to stop the anxiety ...that is until the drug wears off. Once it does wear off you will need another hit and probably quite quickly.
Or you take the second route...
Route2:You hear the response of your threat brain, acknowledge that it's worried. However the only way to remove an addiction is to ween off the drug. So you tell yourself that this time you are not going to check. You accept that this will create an even higher level of anxiety (like withdrawal) but you sooth your threat brain by telling it that nothing will change as a result of not-checking, symptoms are there or more likely not there whether you check or not but by choosing not to check you can begin to reduce the level of dependency on the drug which will allow you to assess things more rationally.
So you don't check, you close your eyes and flush the toilet.
The threat brain creates panic at not knowing what it was like, anxiety goes off the scale but gradually over the next 20-30 mins the threat brain realises that nothing bad as happened as a result of not checking. Nothing has changed and it is soothed by your logical brain and rational actions. This too will only last so long as it is an addiction, but each time you don't check the weaker the need for the drug should be.
Over today and yesterday I am practising route 2 in relation to not checking my tongue in the mirror...the other practical thing that helps is not turning the bathroom light on so I cant see my reflection!
I have also told my threat brain that it can check tomorrow morning before I see the doctor as nothing different will happen as a result of not checking until then. This deferred worrying/checking is a way of reducing the daily (or more realistic hourly) dependency on the drug.
No idea if any of that helps in this case! however writing this down was quite cathartic for me. Good Luck and Best Wishes.