Idk how to handle this situation.

[misslove]

Background: I live next to my grandfather. He's not my blood relative, he adopted my dad. My grandfather is and always has been a major perve. Tons of half naked woman calendars and posters on his walls in his house. It's no secret that he watches porn( it's easily heard on summer days when he has his windows open) Over the summer he was in an accident and has been out of work. I have always been uncomfortable around him because of his love of women. I usually get his mail for him and take it to him. He has been getting touchy with me all summer. First he rubbed his hand down my back, then kissed my head and the straw that broke the camels back he smacked my butt. I told my parents because I didn't know what to do. My dad pretty much went off on him. And to make it worse when my dad went over there he caught him watching porn. This was maybe an hour after he smacked my butt. So since this all happened it's been a few weeks. I stopped going to his house and getting his mail. The entire this is awkward and I'm having trouble dealing with it. I'm 30 and have a 6 yr old girl and it drives me cray to thing that my own grandpa could be thinking nasty thoughts seeing her in a bathing suit. Even if it's 100 degrees out I will put a sweatshirt on around him. I haven't seen him since this all happened. But I also feel bad that I do t get his mail anymore. He is old and stuff after all. I was raised to respect my elders and I'm just torn. And he is my daughter grandfather. I just don't know what to do. I feel horrible for cutting him out of our lives but I also don't want to go near him again. I just don't know what to think. Thanks for reading

[Kuatir]

Don't feel horrible about this. Sounds like he was testing the water; pushing a little further everytime; seeing what he could get away with. Being old is not an excuse. Keep away from him. Your (and your daughter's) safety comes before his.

[hanshan]

If he watches porn, he would have to qualify as "normal" by current behavioural patterns.

If he is acting inappropriately sexually with either you or your daughter, you should respond immediately, making it absolutely clear that you have zero tolerance.

Respect is earned by elders through wise and caring behaviour. It is not an automatic entitlement.

[Magic]

I Totally agree what the other members have said. Don't feel guilty. Stay away misslove.

[misslove]

I'm going to stay away. Especially for the sake of my child. I just can't help but feel bad for him. He's totally cut out of the family now. My dad will have nothing to do with him.

[hanshan]

Never feel bad for someone who has abused their trust.They had your trust, and by their actions lost it, that's all. You must not feel sorry for that.