Weekends are the worst.

[mrjonesmcr]

Sorry to hear you are feeling so low.
I don't know if you have a hobby, but if you join a club then there may be weekend activities.
Perhaps you could arrange a meet up for NMP members in your city?
There are thousands of people alone on a Saturday night - I hope something turns up for you.

I've tried arranging a meet up on here, no response as of yet.

I'm not even sure I see much point in trying, most people already have lots of friends and aren't wanting or needing new people in their lives. I've lost too many years due to loneliness. I don't see it getting better, not really.

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Mrjones, I truly think those of us who are down give off some kind of signal, as people around where I live don't talk to me anymore etc, or even look my way when I walk past. I am out of the house most days too, go into town etc and am very polite when getting served, holding doors for people etc, yet I feel so unlikeable.

Even if we try to put on a front and fake a smile (not saying you're faking, but at times I do) it makes not a bite of difference. I know where you're coming from and feel I'm in the same boat, although I'm not entirely alone as I have a boyfriend and child, but different company would be nice now and again. It's so hard to make friends in my opinion unless you have the same interests as others which I don't.

This is exactly how I feel. I hold doors, I am very polite yet feel unlikeable. And I fake smiles constantly!

[Phuzella]

Oh dear :(. I'm 58 and spend a good deal of time on my own . I have the odd day of thinking woe is me but can kick my arse out of it quite quickly. The alternative to not trying to be happy is not to be thought about.I may be talking complete tripe but life's too short etc etc

[mrjonesmcr]

Oh dear :(. I'm 58 and spend a good deal of time on my own . I have the odd day of thinking woe is me but can kick my arse out of it quite quickly. The alternative to not trying to be happy is not to be thought about.I may be talking complete tripe but life's too short etc etc

I'm afraid you are talking tripe. :P although I wish I had that mentality.

[Phuzella]

Lol tripe is good. I don't always have the annoyingly positive mentality but after becoming a widow at age 53 I give it my best shot.

[Lucinda07]

Its unfortunate that no one responded to your request for a meet up in Manchester.
I can only suggest that you try going out by yourself. I sometimes do this. If I waited for someone to accompany me to the theatre/cinema/exhibition, I'd wait forever. If people want to talk to me - fine. If not they've missed out on an opportunity!
Why not put the goal of making friends on the back-burner & just go out & try to get something from the outing ( people may approach you & start to chat.)
I find many single ladies go to the theatre - you never know who you might meet!
Is your cat being more sociable tonight? A little treat may do the trick!
You've got your whole life ahead of you - don't give up!

[mrjonesmcr]

Its unfortunate that no one responded to your request for a meet up in Manchester.
I can only suggest that you try going out by yourself. I sometimes do this. If I waited for someone to accompany me to the theatre/cinema/exhibition, I'd wait forever. If people want to talk to me - fine. If not they've missed out on an opportunity!
Why not put the goal of making friends on the back-burner & just go out & try to get something from the outing ( people may approach you & start to chat.)
I find many single ladies go to the theatre - you never know who you might meet!
Is your cat being more sociable tonight? A little treat may do the trick!
You've got your whole life ahead of you - don't give up!

I go out on my own all the time. It's fun on occasion, but it's dreadfully lonely. I often go to exhibitions as well, I'm seeing the Boris Nzebo one at Manchester Art Gallery next week, I'm looking forward to it, but not as much since I'll be on my own.

I'm not really looking for a relationship. There's only one person I'd sacrifice my singlehood for and she's taken, I'm highly crushing on her but she's taken and lives at the other end of the country.

On the whole. I just want to make friends and proper ones at that, I can't afford to put it on the backburner any longer. I just fear meeting people when they're not as fun or interesting as they once were as odd as that might sound. Most my age want to settle down now and stop living. So I don't really have my whole life ahead of me, not really anyway. My chances are limited and no matter what, I've lost so many of the best years. It's all downhill after 30, which I'm close to.

And no, she's outside again, she came in briefly for some attention and disappeared again. I even tried tempting her with a treat. No luck! :(

[SLA]

I understand what you mean about hitting 30. It seems like its over but its not, you just have to pursue different avenues.

Lots of people are in the same boat, and i'd say you've got much more going for you than I have, and i'm quite upbeat!

And if there is one person that you would sacrifice your singlehood for, then there will be many undiscovered out there.

And trust me, your 30's will be your best years. But you have to make them so...

Peace my friend.

[mrjonesmcr]

I understand what you mean about hitting 30. It seems like its over but its not, you just have to pursue different avenues.

Lots of people are in the same boat, and i'd say you've got much more going for you than I have, and i'm quite upbeat!

And if there is one person that you would sacrifice your singlehood for, then there will be many undiscovered out there.

And trust me, your 30's will be your best years. But you have to make them so...

Peace my friend.

I'm not really sure what I do have going for me though. I don't have looks, a paid job, friends or money. If you have one of those at least, you'll be fine. And what different avenues do you mean exactly? I remain unconvinced my 30s will be the best, since my 20s have sucked.

There's only one person, trust me. She's amazing. Others would have to be much, much better for it to change, and the last time I was on a dating site, the people I spoke to didn't fill me with hope. But this person did, more than she'll ever know. But I was too late for anything to happen, story of my life.

[SLA]

The more you hold onto the past, and let it dictate your future, the more sorry you will be when you are approaching 40, and looking back on your 30's.

Read this book:
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Think-Forwa...ward+to+thrive

[mrjonesmcr]

I don't see what great posssibilties happen in your 30s though. :(