Re: A life ruined
Originally Posted by
Steve30
I think things have gone way too far to ever change because there's nothing left now.
It's never too late to change, Steve and you're only 30! I'll swap you my 46 for your 30!
A doctor recently gave me the whole list of things the nhs can offer me to help, but all seems too little, too late.
How do you know if you don't try?
In my life I have been through quite some things, both of my parents lived with serious diseases. I am an only child and there are no other family members. Both parents are now deceased.
You've been dealt a tough hand, for sure, but you can still have a life and a happy one at that. The problem is that it won't come to you. You will have to put some effort in. I always say that none of us know what (or who) is around the corner. It's just that some of us have more challenges to overcome than others.
The thing with anxiety and depression is that we all desperately want to get better but we want the easy fix. We want somebody to wave a magic wand and suddenly we're better. It's us that make us better.
My friends were never really the best people. They were all friendly when I had something they wanted, but when I didn't, they wouldn't bother with me. Eventually I stopped having anything they wanted and so they parted ways with me.
By the sound of it you are well shot of those leeches.
Yes I have been given a list of all the services the nhs can offer to do with chronic anxiety, but how can any of it help?
How will you know if it helps or not of you don't try? I did CBT and it helped me. I did mine one to one over the phone because I'm a social idiot but if you can do group therapy, who knows where that could lead? Friends for instance?
It was hard enough seeing the doctor. I was shaking uncontrollably, I couldn't make eye contact, my mind kept going blank half way through what I was saying and I couldn't sit still.
That's how I am normally. That's why I write things down..
Most of the things on the list the doctor wrote down involves appointments with mental health teams. It wouldn't be so bad if I had someone to go with, like a family member, but I dont. That makes it difficult because the depression side of it means I have no motivation and energy, and the chronic anxiety side of it means I really struggle in the appointments.
Though we can't physically be there with you, I'm sure people on here will give you support and maybe that will give you some motivation?
It's not going to be easy but the road to recovery never is.
The other things are self help methods like meditation and exercise. The depression takes my energy away to do that though.
Do it no matter how bad you feel. Exercise will get those endorphins working and meditation really helps to focus the mind on things other than how crap you feel.
You need to change the 'I can't' to 'I'll try'. Even better, 'I can'.
All the best.
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