hi, wanted to post in the right category my full story. i try to keep it short.
since i can remember i have strong social anxiety. i think its because my father was very strict and i always had to pay attention to what i say and do. every time i'm near people i have the same thoughts. "watch what your doing" "don't make them think you are weird" "don't bother them". everybody here probably knows that but when you try to force that you act to the opposite of it
trying not to shake is what makes you shake. well yeah, i never had a boyfriend because i couldn't stay normal when they talk to me. the more interest they show in me the more nervous i get. the more i try to stay calm the more uncalm i get. i know its all in my head and i tried to fix it so often but it always just comes back. this weekend i went out with 2 friends (something i always decline first but always get convinced by my friends and then regret afterwards) we where in a club and of course only sat at the bar all the time because of me. i tried to put on a mask to seem chill and the first guy comes talking to me, i just start mumbling and shaking and after a while he says he has to go to the toilet but never returns. every time when something like this happens i feel so embarrassed and the rest of the night becomes even scarier. i always tell my friend that i don't want to go out and that its hell for me but they keep insisting saying that it will help me. while it never does, it only makes me feel worse. but i always give in because i fear that if i don't they start distancing themselves from me. i also don't want to start getting drunk just to relax but that's a topic for another story.
well yeah i guess there is not much else to say, average anxiety hell.
i hope talking to people here that can understand my situation will help because in my environment nobody really pays much attention to my problem and always assumes that its nothing strong.