Re: New pet anxiety
I grew up with dogs that were "mine" and I was totally responsible for. Every single time I'd be excited, then bring the pup home and the anxiety would hit.
It was really, really bad with my youngest dog, Chisum. He had a lot of anxiety/behavioral issues even at 8 weeks old that are totally abnormal for most dogs, so he was a LOT harder to adjust to and I was already going through a tough time.
He's two now; I think it took about a year but honestly I don't think I could love him more. He still has piles upon piles of issues but he's my little guy and I can't imagine life without him.
My parents recently got two dogs for their farm, and as I'm living at home now I thought I'd be anxious. I wasn't. Turns out when I'm not the one responsible for their futures it takes a lot of the pressure off!
I think you should absolutely challenge your anxiety. Just take it day by day. You'll get there. Any chance you could go to obedience classes with the new dog? I found that helps a LOT.
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