Do you think it is rude to not offer '+1' invites to all guests at a wedding?
So I finally got around to sending out all my wedding invites and my partner's aunt and cousins received theirs today and on their invite I wrote the aunt and uncles name and the two cousins so they knew they were all invited and then I got a phone call from the eldest cousin (she is 18) asking if her invitation was 'plus 1' and if she could bring her boyfriend of a year (who me and my partner have never met) and I felt put in the spot when she asked but I told her the truth, its a small wedding with only 40 guests and the guest list is full now and I can't afford to add anyone else, which is true and then she asked how come some of my friend's could bring their partner's and I told her its because my friend's partners are also my friend's too and I know them all well. So she told me she wasn't going to go then, it would just be her mum and dad attending the wedding. I could understand her not going if she didn't know anyone at the wedding but all her family will be there.
Do you think its rude to not offer every guest a plus one? Or would you reserve it for certain people - those who maybe wont know anyone else at the wedding for example?
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