Originally Posted by
beatroon
Hi there,
OK, I'm going to take a firm line and say that you need to open up to an adult you trust about how you feel - someone who will understand what HOCD is and won't misunderstand, and then you need to find a therapist who specialises in OCD, and then you need to start on a programme of ERP with them. And all through that, you need to stop Googling and asking yourself the question. Think of yourself like a Zen master: the only way to truly know is to stop asking.
I know that you won't feel good about this, because asking the question is a compulsion, and it HURTS when you try to stop compulsing. But you have to try, in order to stop living with the kind of distress you're experiencing now, which is very debilitating and unfair on you.
I know it sounds as though we are all faintly indulgent adults going 'oh well you're 14 and you'll work it out eventually' but it really is true that as you get older, things do resolve themselves naturally, and being anxious about something now isn't going to save you any potential pain later. What WILL save you pain is living in the moment and getting help with your condition.
I wish you all the best in your recovery. You sound like a very emotionally switched-on person, highly intelligent, and I am sure that you can beat this thing, but don't try to do it on your own. Good luck!