Hi All,
I am hoping someone can relate. I have a couple of issues which are OCD related, one is ruminating thoughts over and over relating to a past 'mistake' or guilt and another is planning for the worst case scenario even though it is not rational and probably will never happen.
I made a 'mistake' a few weeks ago whilst broken up with my partner and since getting back together I did not disclose the full truth and pushed some information onto him that he didn't want to know (rational sense tells me we were not together and the details are pointless). Since then, I've told him numerous times that I struggle with black/white and having a 'grey' area and not disclosing details - I feel like I have to disclose things to the nth degree. He has told me that he;s often thought about the detail but has decided that he does not want to know - perfect! But not for me...I beat myself up replaying the scenario and convincing myself that if he did know the details, he would want to know. It's not conceivable to me that he doesn't want to know so instead I have been going over the scenario again and again, and it's probably snowballed in my mind.
On top of the above, I have convinced myself that the detail or 'the truth' will come out eventually and I have pictured numerous (likely impossible) scenarios how this might come about. I plan for how he might react and I plan for how I might react. My mind does not look at the rational facts that a) we were apart b) he doesn't want to know c)he is a rational person. I project my 'black and white' thinking onto him and other people constantly.
As a result, this seemingly insignificant mistake has gained some traction in my mind and I am OBSESSED with going over it!
anyone relate?