what avoidance techniques do you use ?

[mirry]

Ive decided Im going to think about all my avoidance behaviours,

Instead of going to the shops I buy food online.
Instead of having my hair cut in a shop , I do it myself or family to do it.
Instead of driving the car , i get a taxi or get hubby to take me somewhere.
Instead of going out to work alot more , I do some work from home.

Its really not good enough is it .

[yorkylover]

I have my hair done at home,I have a mobile hairdresser.

My partner takes me everywhere in the car to avoid any public transport.

I make my doctors appointments for mornings so I dont have to worry all day for late appointments.

I now have blood tests done at the local surgey so I dont have to go to hospital.

Mirry what work do you do at home?I have an evening job but Im home all day.

[mirry]

Hi ellen, just my jewellery making and then sell it at different locations, dont make much money from it, £20 - £30 a week if im lucky.

Need to do craft fairs (gulp)

[belle]

I just don't go out. Now thats avoidance!!!!

That is NOT good enough :(

x

[Brandy snap]

Hi, I buy my clothes from Next and La Redoute catalogues as I get so hot and panicky in clothes shops/changing rooms. Brandy Snap

[eeyorelover]

I make up stupid excuses why I can't go to stores when I am feeling anxious.
I shop on ebay alot so I don't have to go to stores.
I have alot of friends online but only a few in 'the outside world' so I don't have to go out and be social.

xxx
Sandy

[Karen]

I use plastic disposable plates/cutlery etc and prepare food wearing gloves due to OCD related to my eating disorder.

Also I buy food that I then am not able to allow myself to eat so I throw it in the bin and pour bleach over it.

I use email rather than the phone where I can.

I also take sleeping pills to excess in an attempt to block out the day.

None of it is good and I am trying to work at changes with my CBT therapist but it is a long, slow haul.

Karen

[Alabasterlyn]

Hi, I buy my clothes from Next and La Redoute catalogues as I get so hot and panicky in clothes shops/changing rooms. Brandy Snap

You sound like me Brandy snap. I should have shares in NEXT as I buy so much online from them. I really love it when I get a 'free delivery' email from them as it means I can order more often. I did buy some stuff from La Redoute but they are just sooooo slow to deliver and their returns service where I am is crap

Apart from buying clothes online, which I mainly do in the Summer as once it gets darker in the evenings I can just about get into town

I order my groceries every two weeks online

I order things for the house online

I make Dr's appts online to avoid talking to a receptionist and make sure I get the first appointment of the day which is 8.00am

I request my repeat prescriptions online and then the pharmacy picks it up, fills it and I get my partner to go and pick it up

I seem to have stopped driving and the only time I drive now is on the rare occasions we go out and my partner has had too much to drink and so I need to drive home as I am always sober

I get family to come to visit me at my house rather than try and go to them

My list could go on and on

[ksmith]

I'm lucky in comparison to a lot you that have answered this post insofar as I have recovered to a large extent. However, I still have stumbling blocks at work and my career progression is thwarted by my reluctance to travel abroad, give presentations at meetings etc. So, I spose I'm still in a sense avoiding. But hey, shouldn't really moan, this time last year I couldn't get off the couch or go to the loo on my own!!

Kay x

[blackie]

Hiya
I can realte to what all of you have said.
I dont go out at all, everything i buy is fron online stores, i do my work at home because i didnt make it to uni and avoid anyhting stressful.
I am going to try and go to the doctors on my own next time. It is litually 1 min walk down at the end of my road.
Blackie