Re: Getting a woman in my life
Originally Posted by
Pete_uk
Thanks for the replies folks. I think most of them on POF want the kind of person you can pick up in a pub or club. I have managed to message a few ladies but had nothing back.
I am really uncomfortable in my skin. I'm trying but progress is slow. I just feel like time is running out.
I'm somewhat in the same boat as you Pete. I've been on POF many times and even had a few dates that went nowhere and these women messaged me first. Yet, when I tried to message other women, in which I thought we might have the same compatibility or basically what they're looking for, I get no replies and I know they're looking for someone in general. Makes me wonder if you're not on to something with you're thinking - "want the kind of person you can pick up in a pub or club".
Another thing I noticed is that a lot of the women on POF seem to be angry at times, demanding or judgemental, in the way they write their profiles, like they're expecting all men to be total jerks or cheaters, if they were to date any one of us. Those type of attitudes turn me off and I don't even bother trying to talk to those particular women, no matter how much we might have in common.
But yeah, just like you, I feel like time is running out for me (mainly due to the feeling of getting older) and I'm beginning to think POF is a lost cause at times. Someone once told me the dating paysites are better, because the quality of people you meet on those sites are better, but man I hate dishing out money to try and find someone online. I worry about getting suckered in because it might not be any different then POF.
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