Can anybody recommend a wash basket?

[BlueIris]

I get the strong impression you're going to ruin your wife's life. Please get help before this happens.

[phil06]

I get the strong impression you're going to ruin your wife's life. Please get help before this happens.

The car door doesn’t affect her

And I am getting CBT what other help do you expect me to get?

[Fishmanpa]

And I am getting CBT what other help do you expect me to get?

Having someone in real life make you accountable for your actions might be beneficial. Refraining from public blogging of your thoughts on forums might be beneficial as well, as nothing said here or elsewhere helps nor do you heed any of the advice.

I do have a question. It appears from your posts that your wife is somewhat unaware or just doesn't care about the extreme OCD. How does she handle it? Does she know of your participation on multiple forums? Has she ever read any of your threads?

Positive thoughts

[phil06]

Having someone in real life make you accountable for your actions might be beneficial. Refraining from public blogging of your thoughts on forums might be beneficial as well, as nothing said here or elsewhere helps nor do you heed any of the advice.

I do have a question. It appears from your posts that your wife is somewhat unaware or just doesn't care about the extreme OCD. How does she handle it? Does she know of your participation on multiple forums? Has she ever read any of your threads?

Positive thoughts

She is aware of my ocd but doesn’t help much and no I don’t think she reads the forum.

[KK77]

She is aware of my ocd but doesn’t help much and no I don’t think she reads the forum.

So you feel she could help in some way?

And do you mean she's aware of the forums you're on but chooses not to read your posts?

[phil06]

So you feel she could help in some way?

And do you mean she's aware of the forums you're on but chooses not to read your posts?

She could help but doesn’t. But my mum doesn’t understand either.

And im not sure why she doesn’t read the forums.

[BlueIris]

In what way do you think she could help you?

[phil06]

In what way do you think she could help you?

No idea not by shouting.

I think a therapist is meant to help but I pay money for it and it doesn’t so much.

[Fishmanpa]

I think a therapist is meant to help but I pay money for it and it doesn’t so much.

Going to a therapist for OCD (or any mental illness) isn't something you do for 8 weeks, or 12, or 24 and then you are "cured". You can't just go, get your CBT diploma and never think about it again. Therapy is there to help you learn the techniques, begin to apply them, and focus on changing how you approach OCD and your life in general. If you are willing to do the work, and if you have taken in what you have been taught, then you may not need to do any therapy beyond this. If you are struggling to do the work, but you are making progress, you might need some more to help you become more confident in handling it on your own. If you aren't willing to do the work, aren't willing to challenge the OCD outside the therapy (or inside) then its a waste of time and money to go at all. Ideally when you finish your current therapy course you should have a concrete plan of action with goals moving forward that you can put in to place to continue your recovery on your own. You should be ready to continue the steps you are learning outside of therapy, as part of your everyday life as much as necessary to continue your recovery. Therapy is just a starting point, not the end.

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[Carys]

Wise words !