Can anybody recommend a wash basket?

[pulisa]

Do you regret getting married?

[phil06]

Do you regret getting married?

No why would I regret it hasn’t changed much for me it’s only a tag. To some marriage is a big fuss to others it’s not.

[Fishmanpa]

marriage.... it’s only a tag.

Positive thoughts

[nomorepanic]

No why would I regret it hasn’t changed much for me it’s only a tag. To some marriage is a big fuss to others it’s not.

Wow that says a lot

[phil06]

Wow that says a lot

Yes but I am here to discuss my ocd and anxiety not relationship counselling.

[MyNameIsTerry]

I don’t seem to be getting any better so I may go to the doctors next week. Every day for over a week I have felt this way people told me I shouldn’t be feeling this way for so long? I wake up and every day I feel awful and at night I feel lack of appetite and feel cold. I fear it’s some sort of serious illness?

I've had colds longer than that. As an asthmatic I would have to watch them due to the possibility of infections and a week or so with a cold is just nothing to me. If you had flu you would be on your arse not moving.

On top of this you also have a mental health condition that includes fatigue symptoms and they add up.

[MyNameIsTerry]

Wow that says a lot

A lot of people just aren't bothering anymore for that very reason. To many it is now an outdated thing and it's more about accessing the additional legal statuses they are afforded. I guess it's a question of whether you need a bit of paper and a ceremony as opposed to just deciding you both commit to the same level so I'm wary of reading into it here.

[Scass]

I agree with you Terry.

I don’t really know how to explain it though. I have been in the same relationship for many years and am not married.

My anxiety is separate to my relationship. I’m sure it affects my partner, just like some of his stuff affects me. It’s a partnership that we’re both involved in.

I do think that Phil shouldn’t expect his partner to live up to his unrealistic standards sometimes. But I also believe that his wife probably understands a lot more than we do.

[pulisa]

It was an intrusive question and I shouldn't have asked it. It was more about increased anxiety after getting married rather than marriage as a status. A partnership is a partnership married or not but I guess you have a very clinical way of looking at things, Phil?

[Scass]

It was an intrusive question and I shouldn't have asked it. It was more about increased anxiety after getting married rather than marriage as a status. A partnership is a partnership married or not but I guess you have a very clinical way of looking at things, Phil?

Sometimes intrusive questions provoke the best response in Phil I think. Plus he doesn’t seem to mind too much!
But yes, I think his marriage caused a lot of anxiety, and it’s still there trying to find a new outlet.