Can anybody recommend a wash basket?

[phil06]

At the minute Phil would rather pay to follow his plan for life than actually recovering from his disorders... as he thinks that is how life should work. Where in fact he would get so much more enjoyment put of things if his OCD wasn't ruling his life as it is now.

Phil isn't ready to accept that yet, but after 15 years with mental health disorders you would hope that would come soon.

Yes but I am not following a plan as I am not having a family atleast not yet. I got married so what I see other people living socially acceptable lives but I don’t fancy having a family or the pressure of driving right now.

[Quinn1]

I honestly don’t get,how one can live 15yrs trying too live,oh wait that’s not living.
Ive been in the same place as Phil,but didn’t have a”Life Plan”, I seeked the help that was given too me and did the bloody hard yards.Venus I think he is happy just the way he is with all his material possessions,talking about flying to god knows where,his OCD, too me doesn’t seem that bad. My husband left me over my OCD,I hope Phil doesn’t lose his new bride.

[venusbluejeans]

I honestly don’t get,how one can live 15yrs trying too live,oh wait that’s not living.
Ive been in the same place as Phil,but didn’t have a”Life Plan”, I seeked the help that was given too me and did the bloody hard yards.Venus I think he is happy just the way he is with all his material possessions,talking about flying to god knows where,his OCD, too me doesn’t seem that bad. My husband left me over my OCD,I hope Phil doesn’t lose his new bride.

Sadly I think you are right

Phil has a set idea how life should be... the flying on holidays, the getting married, eventually having children and learning to drive, whereas at the minute that set idea should recovering from his mental disorders. then he would find his set ideas so much more achieivable. pity he doesn't see that and will make up excuses as to why.

[Quinn1]

I had ten sessions of Cbt before I stopped and started it again but I noticed little improvement. £200 would only pay for 2-4 sessions anyway. Part of my fear of flying is ocd anxiety based so if I could beat that it would be useful. Like I say my hope is it will settle down eventually I never found much comfort in exposure therapy. I believe I need to invest more time in free resources like books and YouTube before splashing out on more Cbt. If it was free fair enough but it wasn’t.

You know what Phil, I at first didn’t like it either,but I perceived,I wanted too live and enjoy life as it used to be,I too had fears of flying exactly the same as you.
That 200 is a start on books if that is what you prefer,personally they did nothing for me,my concentration span it didn’t help,you really need that one on one therapy.
You are giving in way to easy,time for you too be a Man,15yrs of this must suck. I am not going to pussyfoot with you,you need what I got told a kick up the bum and get Professional help,for you and your bride,before you fly,plan for a family or whatever your next plan is.
Stop complaining and Get help,not from here but Professionals.

[MyNameIsTerry]

I had ten sessions of Cbt before I stopped and started it again but I noticed little improvement. £200 would only pay for 2-4 sessions anyway. Part of my fear of flying is ocd anxiety based so if I could beat that it would be useful. Like I say my hope is it will settle down eventually I never found much comfort in exposure therapy. I believe I need to invest more time in free resources like books and YouTube before splashing out on more Cbt. If it was free fair enough but it wasn’t.

Do you believe a phobia course will address a theme in OCD that is many petals of the flower? It may help you reduce it but whether it addresses what is underpinning it is debatable. Aren't you going to be forced to do exposure work within this course?

[Dying_Swan]

Like I say my hope is it will settle down eventually I never found much comfort in exposure therapy. I believe I need to invest more time in free resources like books and YouTube.

Exposure isn't supposed to be comfortable, that's the whole point, but each time you re-expose yourself to the fear, it will start to become less uncomfortable, until you no longer fear it. Well done on going in the car, but you need to keep doing it without washing your hands if you want to stop being worried by it.

Good luck on it "setting down eventually". I hope you're right, although I've never heard of it happening. Which books, self-help resources etc have you tried? I know people here have sought some out for you. It will be really important for you to talk to your new psychiatrist about your OCD to get their opinion on the best treatment options for you.

[phil06]

I had to touch a bin at work today I did wash my hands but it made me feel very uneasy. I have asked for a transfer at my work rather than look for a new job. This may seem a big change or life event so to speak but I have moved stores 3 times already in this job. When I moved house 4 years ago it was my first house and I moved jobs to stay local. Since then I sold my house as I hated the place and now I’ve had it get two buses go work so I’m tired of it. That said having anxiety making big choices is hard when I go down the solipsism/free will path of thoughts I am trying to avoid these patterns of thoughts. Problem is you need a new challenge my boss has seen how the job no longer challenges me. My boss thinks I need to do stuff like driving too so perhaps this is where my pressures come from outside sources?

[venusbluejeans]

Put your postcode in here..... I put your town in and forund quite a few who specialise in OCD. of course there is also that charity i found you before too!

[pulisa]

I don't think you know where your pressures come from, Phil and there certainly won't be an "answer" you seek on any forums. You need face to face help to understand how your anxieties affect you and a structured approach as to how best to approach managing them more consistently and successfully but I doubt whether you will consider this advice because you don't want to. I think you are quite happy asking the same questions ad infinitum and this behaviour is just another ritual.

[venusbluejeans]

or there is this... NHS 24 Living Life – telephone based cognitive behaviour therapy (CBT). Available free on 0800 328 9655

or google psychoanalysis.center

or just do anything!!