I have never been physically abusive in my life, apart from the usual schoolboy fight and the teenager with too much Dutch courage on a saturday night.
The reason why I'm asking if panic attacks / severe anxiety are related is that until I started having panic attacks three and a half years ago I had never been abusive in a physical way berfore.
For me personally it has affected the relationship I have with my partner. I have been physically abusive to her on more than four occasions.
The only way I can describe the feeling inside me at the time it happens, is a total loss of control, not even seeing what is happening as wrong. The heart races, I feel extremely tense in my neck / shoulders, as if the bones are going to burst out, I scream so loud my throat hurts the next day.
That is what I feel. Believe me it is nowhere as bad a feeling as I have given to my partner. This is the worst thing anyone can do to someone they love with all their heart. I can truly say that for these actions I have forced on my partner I hate the person inside me.
I have seeked help from my doctor, writing down exactly how I feel at the time these attacks of violence happen.
The only thing that has happened is that I now have a course of beta blockers, these do stop me from going to the point of no return as I can only describe it as. Iam still able to get angry but this is nowhere near to the point of out of control.
Has anyone else had experiences like this? Or know someone that has?
It is a part of my life that I now have to accept has happened. I still hate myself for what I did, to the one person in my life I love.