Originally Posted by
Violet Blue
My heart breaks for the children of narcissists, and being married to one - well that must be just hell. As I said earlier intelligence, or lack of it, has nothing to do with being the victim of one of these people, even if after you've worked it out you can't believe how stupid you were to be taken in by it. (The children of narcissists have no choice of course.)
When I got caught up with a covert narcissist it was a 'perfect storm' of various things which made me vulnerable. I totally get the 'love bombing' and then the true nastiness you get from them. It's as if they're two people, that's how confusing it is, and they are so manipulative. When they realise they can't control you anymore they drop you. But as upsetting as that it, they are doing you a massive favour by leaving you.
The one good thing about being a narcissist's victim is that you can spot them a mile off, it's uncanny how they all behave in the same way. It's only once you've read up about narcissism that you begin to realise what the hell just happened.