Relapse! Coping, Symptoms and Tips.

[Lencoboy]

I must admit I barely saw anything regarding the eclipse yesterday, though it was getting dark anyway. I do remember the one we had in 1999 was it? I remember a flock of starlings making as if to roost. A long time ago in human terms, but the blink of an eye for celestial bodies.

You're right, the eclipse seemed to pass pretty much unnoticed here in Blighty.

For some strange reason ISTR the 1999 eclipse also passing unnoticed, at least here in the Midlands, though I think it may have been more prominent in the South of England.

I do vaguely remember another solar eclipse in March 2015, though again it only seemed to have a very modest impact here in the Midlands, and nothing to get mega over-excited about, despite all the relentless media hype during the run-up to it.

[BlueIris]

The 1999 one was definitely a thing in London, I was working there at the time.

[Carnation]

I think I remember that too Blueiris

Change of subject....

Anyone get foamy urine. Pee isn't dark but not clear and no smell but lots of foam.
I've never noticed this before. But then again it's normally covered with toilet paper.
Most of the time my pee is light yellow and occasionally clear.
Just worrying about this foam.

[BlueIris]

Please don't worry, it's perfectly natural - I get it a lot. I think it can be exacerbated by both our natural secretions and the toilet cleaners we use.

[Carnation]

Thanks BlueIris.
Actually after that I had two perfectly clear pees.
I was just so taken aback by all the froth /foam.

How are you today?

[Carnation]

Thinking of you darksky

[Darksky]

Thank you Mrs.C. I’m getting there. Still have moments of disbelief but I’m definately getting on. The funeral was last Friday and now the legal forms and stuff are flying here and there. It’s awful that at a time when you want to be left in peace, is just the time when you are most hassled.

It will sort itself out eventually, quotes Mr.D…..Hes right, it will. I just have to tell anxiety to stop telling me otherwise.

[YoullNeverWalkAlone]

Hi Carnation, don’t worry I’ve had that when I’ve had a wee, I just put it down to the force of your wee and the bloo loo in the toilet, a bit like when you put water in a bowl thats got washing up liquid in there, it foams up, nothing to worry about...

Darksky....I remember that so well when I lost my mum a couple of years again, I was next of kin so got everything threw at me and had to sell her house etc so had all the legal stuff to deal with, just when you needed to get your head back on straight...but Mr D is right everything falls into place and you just get on with it, it’s when everything was done and completed, that’s when it hit me the hardest....sending you a big hug...xxxx

[Carnation]

Thank you YNWA
I was just a bit taken aback that it could be so frothy.
I also stupidly googled. After telling loads of people not to Google.

I had that with my mum too. It's like being in a daze really, sort of surreal.
I kept saying to Mr C "I'm an orphan now" as well.
Everything did fall into place, it was like a conveyor belt of phone calls and meetings.
But I have to say everybody was so nice and calming.
To some extent it put the grieving on hold while I took the role of secretary and organised everything.
The house was hard, especially deciding what to keep and let go but I'd done that 6 months before she passed.
Mum was out otherwise she'd be giving me orders and arguing about it all but strangely she was sort of relieved.
You really have to put your big girl boots on and step up to being the adult even if you still feel like the little girl who's lost her mummy.
And when you get through all that you realise how much of an adult you've become.
When you sit down to relax in front of the TV, you might find yourself laughing at something and then feel incredibly guilty that you laughed.
Or memories arise if you watch something with a mother and daughter in a drama or film.
Both Mr C and I couldn't watch anything with a funeral for sometime when we lost our mums.
It was switch off and look for something sci-fi or fantasy.
That strength you build up coping with anxiety steads you well in dealing with everything but most importantly, be proud that you are who you are and everything you did. Lick your wounds when needed and take one day at a time.

[Darksky]

Big girl pants indeed Mrs.C. Me and my sister ( who also has anxiety) were saying the other day how amazing it was that the pair of us managed to organise a funeral. A few months back I would have betted against us ever doing something like that. But we did and although I say it myself it was a very nice service. People said we did her proud. Her favourite music, poems and a written tribute to her read by the vicar. Yes, we are proud of ourselves . It just goes to show that when push comes to shove we can take the drivers seat and push anxiety into the boot.