Thank you Sue. x As you can imagine, I'm rather pleased myself. Not too long ago I was going through a relapse which was increased to the loss of a close family member who I cared for as well.
I suppose it's a bit like throwing yourself in to work.
Now, instead of lying awake in bed torturing myself with guilt and sorrow, I am thinking about what colour lampshade to put in the bedroom and where's the best place to put the tv.
Mr C and I are also going to be clearing his late mum's house in a couple of weeks and collecting more stuff to bring back. I'm more anxious about that and worried how this will affect Mr C and possibly open up unhealed wounds. Plus we have that wonderful journey on the M25.
I know it sounds silly, but I'm worried we won't make it back, for what reason, I don't know, but my brain goes in to overdrive and obsessive thoughts.
I'm concerned about Mr C because he is sleeping too much! Oversleeping in the morning, then again late morning then in the afternoon and half the evening.
My brain is telling me that there is something wrong with him and I shouldn't think like that, but I can't help worrying.
So, for now my aim is to make home for the future and have comfort and security. Hopefully happiness will follow.
I know how anxiety can be debilitating and frustrating, but it is not life threatening or a permanent state and I am always thankful that it isn't something more fatal we carry around with us.
I was only diagnosed 5 years ago, but looking back on my life, I can now recall incidents and symptoms that were anxiety related, so I could well of had this most of my life.
As is with my parents and as a child wondered why my dad had so many locks on the door and stuck a chair under the doorknob for security. And why we rarely had visitors and recognise my dad leaving the room when we did. Why I couldn't have a bike or go on holiday with my friends incase something dreadful happened to me. Why my mum and dad never went abroad for a holiday and was petrified when I told them the first time I flew to Spain. They even tried to talk me out of learning to drive a car and that was when I was 30!
Yes, I have definitely been brought up with anxiety/fear and although I made my own life for myself, I now feel the fear more as I am getting older.
Saying that, anxiety has nothing to do with age, but maybe a trigger sets it off? A memory or circumstance?
We can read books on the subject until the cows come home, we look for cures and face our fears, but what if this is something that has been bred in to us and developed as time moves on?
I feel that anxiety is more emotionally based and certain times in our lives it will come to the forefront, but it can also fall into the background.
So, maybe we shouldn't try so hard to rid, but learn to manage, cope and work at keeping it the background.
Apart from that, anxiety is part of our make-up, because fear protects you. We just don't want so much of it.