I wouldn't say 'destiny' Sue. It's more a condition you are in presently. Nerve damage no matter how small will take time to heal and if we don't allow it that time and have more and more things in life to halt the healing process, there will be sections of suffering.
I was told by a top psychiatrist that I would need to go 2 years without any stress or trauma to recover.
At the time I was filled with hope because I thought that was me for dead the way I was feeling. Shortly after that my Dad died and I thought, "oh no, that's added another year on to my recovery. Then mum went a couple of years later. And this is what life does to you and you just don't get the scenario for proper healing.
Think of it like having a tooth out every month. How the pain, the uncomfortable feeling, the sadness you feel, the difficulty in eating, going out in public, when you still feel the nerve pinching you. Now imagine what that could be like in your brain. It's been overworked, traumatised, woken up when it should be resting.
The brain wants to go back to basics like when you were a child. It wants to play games, sing, dance, sit in the sun, walk in the woods. We basically need to give our brains a holiday and we just don't do that. We might for a few hours, but it's not enough. Therefore it tells you in the form of signs sent to our body.
There's no fancy cure, the repair is quite basic.
We are all so eager to rush recovery that we never fully recover and we are all guilty of that.
The moment we start to feel a bit better off we go and wonder why we have a relapse or bad day.
Baby steps, then grow like a child and build back slowly.
I know stuff in life may prevent you from doing that, but that's sort of where we need to be.