Those days we awake feeling anxious will undoubtedly be due to our subconsciousness.
I'm reading about it at the moment and it seems to be the key to our recovery.
Apparently, it doesn't have any affect trying to convince our conscious mind that we are ok, if the subconscious mind has a record of previous fear or danger.. This brings me back to the point of facing a particular fearful situation that takes up to a dozen times to conquer and replace it with a positive feeling. It could be about the place/person /event. Like a Supermarket, Motorway, a relative, a wedding and so on.
And its why we always dread the Dentist, hospital, a funeral, they all tend to be negative places and the feelings about those are natural and hardly change our views on feeling good about them.
But it's not natural to feel scared of a Supermarket, public transport, going to work, someone else's home and loads of other things we come across in our daily life.
So it's important to our recovery to work on the subconscious and that can only be done in a state of going in and coming out of it.
A bit like those CDs you listen to when you want to give up smoking, lose weight or have a fear of flying.
You listen to them just before you fall asleep and the messages stay rooted deep in your brain and become recorded permanently.
The same with learning a language.
How many times have you heard that you will benefit by going to sleep counting the positives of the day. Your achievements, gratitude, good things that happened.
And how we should look at ourselves in the morning and compliment ourselves instead of groaning about being too fat, too thin, too short, too tall, too old and all the other uglies we pick at ourselves.
We try to perfect, it's just not going to happen. Nothings perfect. Look for the best points and admire them, play down the worst points, but hey don't even do that. It's all part of you!
There's a weather forecaster on tv that has only part of her arm. Do I look at her and think, "poor girl, she's only got part of an arm". No. I turned to my other half and said, "what a pretty girl with a softly speaking voice". And he agreed. So why should we be bothered if we have a couple of lines on our face or our hair is out of place? Beauty is skin-deep as they say.
Anyway, getting back to this subconscious thing. It's something we can definitely delve into and I'm still reading the literature about it, but it's also going to become obvious to me that meditation has a lot to do with it too.
I've only used meditation to calm me and empty my head, not to feed it with positive affirmations.
This is why your hypnotism is effective Sue.
Whether someone one says it works or doesn't work, the subconscious is being fed by positivity and over time will eventually be second nature. The time will be based on the length of suffering and extremities.
I'm very encouraged by the possibility of changing my current fears.
As you say Sue, my weather fear has got out of hand and disabling my life. And that's been due to being caught up in bad storms where I've had to run away from and suffering heatstroke several times in the past, so now I see them as danger!
Before I babble on too much, it's something I'll keep you updated on.
Yes, I do have hobbies Sue.
One of them is packed up in the garage and that's my sketching/painting. I also returned to my piano playing which I sadly left behind when a mere 14 years old.
I have my gardening for fresh air and exercise.
I've wanted to be an archaeologist from childhood, that obviously never happened.
I'm not really into joining clubs and classes, I prefer to be solo. I've done enough sport in my life to last me with two marathons and even amateur pentathlon in my younger days. Later I dabbled in Snooker, quite rare for girls and now I have my adaptation of lazyitist.
The push bike idea may be the answer to that.
Lucky? I have a roof over my head, a partner, a gorgeous cat, a new car, I'm beside the sea, I'm able to do things as I have my general health and met lovely people on here.
Yes, I'm extremely lucky! x