Relapse! Coping, Symptoms and Tips.

[pulisa]

Happy New Year to you both!

I had absolutely no expectations re Christmas and just wanted to get through it. Will be relieved when the weekend is over although I don't know why because it makes no difference to me and what I do.

[Carnation]

Happy New Year to you too Catkins.

I think you hit the nail on the head when you said you had expectations of a fluffy perfect Christmas time and it's just not that way for most. We see it in the films and we have a picture in our heads of how it should it be.
Media give it extra pressure too.
I think if you can just get through it unscathed and manage a few pleasant moments, then you have done well.

[Carnation]

Happy New Year to you Pulisa.

I feel a bit the same way about New Years Eve and have no idea why. But I'm not keen on public holidays or special celebrations. Its as if you are supposed to do something more, a bit special, even socialise. I'm sure there's many others that feel the same way.

[pulisa]

I dislike "occasions" too and I think they just make difficult circumstances feel worse although I'm not sure that many people actually like NYE if they were put on the spot? Apart from young people of course.

Isn't tomorrow a difficult anniversary for Mr C though?

[Carnation]

Yes it is Pulisa. What a memory you have.
It's the anniversary of his late mum and tbh that day has not been the same since. It hardly feels a celebration day for him. I'll suggest a walk if the weather is ok. Then I'm doing a buffet meal to pick at and I'll try to find a good film to watch.

[Carnation]

Hello 2022

We made it. Warts and all.
If you must reflect on the past. Try to focus on the courage and obstacles you faced and got through.
Any achievements no matter how small.
The fear that you faced and overcame.
You are here and here now. You are meant to be here and accept with open arms.
As for anxiety symptoms which we all experience at some point. It's down to your reaction. Accept and carry on and they will become less and less. React with fear and you will be adding to the situation.
If you find yourself trying to self diagnose a symptom, which is only natural. Ask yourself what were you thinking of or doing before you felt this symptom. A trigger or bad thought will more than likely be the cause and accept it as that and nothing more.
Disperse any high anxiety by releasing energy with a walk, some form of exercise, housework, gardening, even dance.
Anxiety doesn't know a new year so it's up to you to change what is bad and do what is good for your wellbeing. That includes an occasional treat and praise for your courage, admiring yourself as a person, not overreacting, thinking before you react, being peaceful when the need arises. And eating a varied and regular diet. Sleep when you need it, you don't have to wait until bedtime. Rest when you get the chance. Do something that makes you happy. Do something productive. Help someone and you are helping yourself.
Be kind and understanding because you just don't know what another person is going through. It's not always personal. Be the better person. Become the person you want to be and do the things that you think about doing. Your only holdback is fear and fear can be controlled, even diminished. Be proud of you!

[Lencoboy]

Hello 2022

We made it. Warts and all.
If you must reflect on the past. Try to focus on the courage and obstacles you faced and got through.
Any achievements no matter how small.
The fear that you faced and overcame.
You are here and here now. You are meant to be here and accept with open arms.
As for anxiety symptoms which we all experience at some point. It's down to your reaction. Accept and carry on and they will become less and less. React with fear and you will be adding to the situation.
If you find yourself trying to self diagnose a symptom, which is only natural. Ask yourself what were you thinking of or doing before you felt this symptom. A trigger or bad thought will more than likely be the cause and accept it as that and nothing more.
Disperse any high anxiety by releasing energy with a walk, some form of exercise, housework, gardening, even dance.
Anxiety doesn't know a new year so it's up to you to change what is bad and do what is good for your wellbeing. That includes an occasional treat and praise for your courage, admiring yourself as a person, not overreacting, thinking before you react, being peaceful when the need arises. And eating a varied and regular diet. Sleep when you need it, you don't have to wait until bedtime. Rest when you get the chance. Do something that makes you happy. Do something productive. Help someone and you are helping yourself.
Be kind and understanding because you just don't know what another person is going through. It's not always personal. Be the better person. Become the person you want to be and do the things that you think about doing. Your only holdback is fear and fear can be controlled, even diminished. Be proud of you!

Very wise words Carnation.

[Carnation]

Hello Lencoboy,

Wishing you health and happiness for 2022.

[Lencoboy]

Hello Lencoboy,

Wishing you health and happiness for 2022.

Same to you Carnation.

[Carnation]

It's ok!

It's ok if you don't feel like doing much,
It's ok if you want to rest.
It's ok if you don't want to talk,
It's ok if today is not your best.
It's ok if you want to be alone,
It's ok if you want to cry.
It's ok if you can't concentrate
It's ok to sigh.
It's ok to take your time,
It's ok to say "No".
It's ok to ask for help,
It's ok to lie low.
It's ok to try again,
It's ok to dream.
It's ok to wish,
It's ok to scream.
It's ok not to be perfect,
It's ok to not agree,
It's all ok,
Just be!