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    Anxiety about HIV/AIDS

    Hi all,

    I am 32 years old and from India. Before I explain why I am worried, I have to admit that I am generally a person who worries too much about little things, and could even be accused of being a slight hypochondriac. Now on to the point.

    I have been visiting prostitutes (high end ones) on and off for a while, but I have never had unprotected sex ever with any of them.

    I am a little overweight but reasonably healthy in most other ways. I didn't know much about HIV, but I recently started reading about it, and now I am anxious and worried about having HIV.

    The primary cause for worry is that I read that when you have HIV you get red rashes on your body. I have had red spots on my chest for 7-8 years now. I never had them looked at as they rarely itched and what is more they are more or less invisible unless I am in bright lights, and how often does that happen. So I basically used to forget about them.

    This happened for a while and then because they never caused me any issues, whenever I spotted them again after a few months or so, I would be like yeah they are nothing. I have never had any issues on account of those red spots.

    However after reading about those red spots I was worried what if they are HIV spots. The first I noticed these spots was 7 - 8 years ago, which was after the first time that I had gone to a prostitute, but didn't have unprotected sex.

    The thing is after I visited the prostitute, I didn't fall sick or have fever or anything of that sort, like they say happens when you get HIV.

    However those dots were there. They could have been there since before as well, but I notice them first after I had seen a prostitute. Also they look nothing like the HIV rashes on the internet.

    Not even remotely close. However having read of it the hypochondria has started to act up.

    After that I have seen prostitutes many times over the years, but never had unprotected sex with any of them. Most of them didn't even have sex with but had a handjob or whatever. I have been quite healthy for the 7-8 years since. I have had fever just thrice (maybe 4 times) in that period, only once in these 7-8 years since I saw those red spots for the 1st time, have I had an upset stomach and vomiting and even that got cured in a day.

    I am fit apart from that. I go long periods without getting cold, or falling sick in any way. If I had HIV for 7-8 years surely I would fall sick more often, at least that is what I tell myself when I worry.

    However ever since I read of the red spots on HIV I am worried about it. I can't bring myself to get tested. Based on what you have read of what I have described, what do you think?

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    Re: Anxiety about HIV/AIDS

    Hi,

    It's highly unlikely you have HIV as you haven't had unprotected sex with these prostitutes, however you need to get an STD (sexually transmitted diseases) check. You should have one of these yearly when you're not in a monogamous relationship.

    If I was you I'd also get an AID's test to put your mind at rest.

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    Re: Anxiety about HIV/AIDS

    Quote Originally Posted by WiseMonkey View Post
    Hi,

    It's highly unlikely you have HIV as you haven't had unprotected sex with these prostitutes, however you need to get an STD (sexually transmitted diseases) check. You should have one of these yearly when you're not in a monogamous relationship.

    If I was you I'd also get an AID's test to put your mind at rest.
    OR... visit Palmela Handerson if you really want to play it safe. She's doesn't charge either!

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    Re: Anxiety about HIV/AIDS

    If you have not had unprotected sex then you have nothing to worry about. The red rash you are thinking of is ARS and that is what happened shortly after infection. If you had these spots 7 years then it is safe to say that is not HIV. Go to a walk in clinic and get a rapid hiv test and you will see that we are right and that you do. It have HiV.


    Wisemonkey is right in regards to you needing a test to put your
    I don’t at ease, not because we think there is any chance that you are infected.

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    Risk of HIV from rubbing Penis on Vagina opening, clit

    I was with a prostitute sometime last week and she took my dick and started rubbing it on her clit and vagina opening. I got vagina fluid on the penis head.

    However it was just for a few seconds, 5-10 secs at the most. Also there wasn't even much rubbing, more like caressing.

    I didn't think much of it at the time, it was basically hardly anything. I have since become worried that what if I contracted HIV from that.

    I did subsequently ask the prostitute and she assured me she was clean and that I had nothing to worry about.

    However even assuming she was HIV infected, how likely is such contact to infect.

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    Re: Risk of HIV from rubbing Penis on Vagina opening, clit

    Not that it will reassure you but practically 0%.

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    Re: Risk of HIV from rubbing Penis on Vagina opening, clit

    No chance. You need penetration for transmission of HIV and even then it is not transmitted easily via heterosexual intercourse. You are fine!

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    Re: Risk of HIV from rubbing Penis on Vagina opening, clit

    Why don't you use protection? Then you won't worry about HIV etc. Or maybe you still will?
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    Re: Risk of HIV from rubbing Penis on Vagina opening, clit

    Its not like I wanted to have unprotected sex with a hooker. She just grabbed the dick and started rubbing it on her vagina/clit.

    Also guys the answers you have given so far are exactly what I want to hear. However I must point out that the head of the dick (circumcised) was being rubbed on her vagina opening and clit and there was vaginal fluid on the head, and could potentially have been on the dick opening as well.

    It was for 5-10 secs only and very gentle rubbing. She did tell me though that I don't need to worry about transmission, but I doubt she had medical tests done.

    Are you sure about the earlier responses?

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    Re: Risk of HIV from rubbing Penis on Vagina opening, clit

    Quote Originally Posted by HelpPlease25 View Post
    Are you sure about the earlier responses?
    As I said earlier, reassurance will most likely not work If you're that concerned, get tested. We'll have the "Told ya so gang" on standby.

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